My husband has gone to London for three days leaving me to fend for myself. He has gone on business and so it is really important that I don't make it difficult for him to leave me . I just feel that that would be so wrong because he works to keep us going and to make it hard for him on top of what he is already doing for us is unfair. I told him to think about me is a good thing but not to worry about me because I will be just fine. I can't and I won't make him feel guilty that he leaves me. He wishes that he could stay with me every day to help it must be torturous to leave the one you love for 10+ hours a day when all you want to do is to be there.
It is also not good for either of us for me to tell him I'll be okay and then fall apart the moment he goes. That won't help either of us. So I don't just tell him it's going to be okay I have to make it okay.
So this week I am going swimming I am going to stay with a girlfriend and I am keeping genuinely busy until he returns. It's the least I can do to make sure I am happy and active and focused on staying well for him. In return he makes our world safe and secure that when you are ill is priceless. I may become dependent but I won't become demanding. I may find things taxing as I won't become tiresome.
It is crucial for me for him to leave a happy wife in the morning and come home to a happy wife at night.
If I have had a particularly challenging week I try to talk about it at the weekend when we both have time. It easier then to try and find a better way of dealing with what ever problem it was.
I'm not perfect and sometimes I simply need him whatever he is doing. We have an agreement that he will come to me irrespective of his commitments if it is an emergency. I have only needed to call in that once in eight years together.
I respect and admire the way he has handled this situation and my Parkinson's . I am determined to make sure that I remain the woman he loves for the rest of my life. He deserves that.