I recently got slaughtered for a 'happy' post on a PWP support page. I know I can come across as a bit 'know it all' and 'my way is best way' you guys are tolerant of that and take the trouble to know I am genuine and like us all doing my bit as best I can. What came over is, apparently, that like some Public School Headmistress I scold people for being miserable, as if we are not allowed to wallow or give in. This is of course personal choice and I would never ever preach to people who don't need telling, they need support. Then I thought on it, and thought on it some more.
How many posts are happy ones, where someone is coping not too badly, where there is some joy and a smile. Well not many, and YES I accept that these places are an emotional dumping ground and the right place to whine. If you want to say its unfair, you hate your life, PD has ruined you, stripped you of your life, destroyed your marriage, alienated your friends and killed your dreams - well go ahead…..
and this is where I struggle…. and where I get kicked… because actually I don't concur.
My parents brought me up to be the best I can be, and I try to be better. That means that the paragraph above to me is not acceptable. I take responsibility for my own health and happiness and you know what it works. Whatever people think I remain in exceptional health, my consultant finds it 'unexplainable'.
So I make no apologies for being happy, cheerful and loving my life. I make no apologies for saying c'mon guys lets give it our best shot here, don't have a glass half full have one brimming over. I'm just trying to shine a little light in the dark. Is that such a crime, even if it sounds a bit bossy! Actually bring on the bossy as some people need a kick up the arse. And I close on my view 'being ill is not special, the way you handle it is' ….