Hi anyone out there. Just to say my mum passed away at 19-50pm on the 28/12/2016. 😢😢😢
I'm devastated to say the least. My pain has gone crazy but guess that to do with numerous hours perched on plastic chairs!! My emotions are all over the place!!Will keep all posted,thanks for being there xxx💕💕
akela6th
I am so sorry to learn of your news.
It is never a good time to lose a loved one,but over the Christmas period seems more poignant.
I really feel for you and your family,and my thoughts are with you all.
Please take care of yourselves and I Hope that you can find the strength to see you thru this difficult time.
Crusee.
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I am so sorry! Was this sudden? I wish peace and healing for you. I can't imagine how how this is for you.
Xxx
Ash
Yes sudden had grandchildren great grandchildren I Xmas eve I spoke to her she was full of it. Called I'm morning to wish happy Xmas and my brother answered phone and .mum in back of ambushes. Dr said was could pneumonias and only got very top bits of lungs.. Mum also had end stage heart failures degree of kidney. Failure and COPD so at ripe old age of 80 was actually a sick lady anyway.this is her 3rd lot of pneumonia which turned to septic shock and she lost the fight.
I've actually been very I'll myself as other posts explain. Was in ITU good Friday swine flu then hot decodary pneumonia. Basically between good Friday and end of august I'm 5.tomes swine flu 4lots pneumonia all making asymmetric bad on top of chronic pain. My chest gettyting bad hoping Just stress upped inhalers and started steroids I do have nebulizer but cos how quickly I deteriate I'm only allowed 1then gotta be in hospital which can't do at no.
Sorry to have blabbed on rather a lot,thank you for reply,
Paula xc
Hello akela6th...I'm so very sorry to read that you've lost your Mum..xx My heart goes out to you and your family. Losing a parent is just the most awful thing and even more so over the Christmas period. Everyone seems to be getting on with normal life whilst you're going through one of the worst times of yours. I lost my wonderful Dad to cancer on New Years Day 2009 so will be 8 years tomorrow. I can promise you, that the rawness you feel now..will pass..even though it feels like it never will. Just take care of yourself,, it's easy to forget about you..and by the sounds of the plastic chairs, you need to more than ever..! Please know you're not alone. Thinking of you and sending strength and comforting hugs...BooBear xx
Hermes123. I really feel for you we had a family bereavement three years ago late Christmas night, seems so much worst at that time of year, send our love to you and your family my thoughts are with you.xxx
So very very sorry for your loss, really feel for you, lost my mum in my twenties, time stands still. Know your not alone, all my love and best wishes to you Love from Mark
Ironic lost my dad in my early 20's we had UST started getting on. Had very strict father,don't get me wrong mum would tell us off bit always wait till your dad getts on. Once I had my first daughter we started getting on and I am 45 loosing mum.
Other ironic thing my middle brother called Mark.!?!
I'm so very sorry you've lost your dear Mother ... and pray your pain will lessen by the hour ..
Be strong and look ahead ... life can be tough .. but we are even tougher ..
Mx🌹
Awww sweetie! I'm so sorry! I hope you have someone with you right now? I don't know you. But I was awake in pain. And saw your post and could feel your pain and sadness! Please at least find a hot pack or cold whatever is best! And don't forget to eat. Have you asked for anything to help you? Like Ativan or anything strong for pain? Please don't forget to take care of yourself and god bless!!
Hi there no not alone all mums children an partners were with her when she passed had pretty much between us were there round the clock. I have my husband and 2daughters aged 23&20 with me. I'm on a cocktail of pain relief and waiting to see someone re a neuro transmitter!
Think just need to rest up toll funeral that's gonna be a long emotional and painful day.
Thanks
Paula x
Sorry to hear of your loss, take care emotions can play havoc with your pain . Deepest condolances to you and your family x
I have just spent a week with my 87yr old Mum. I was (shamefully) at times impatient, snarky and, in hindsight, quite rude to someone i respect and love so much. Your loss has hightened my sense of shame. My pain is not an excuse. Along with my condolences to you, comes my thanks in making me recognisie and celebrate just how lucky i am. Peace and love to you. Robbie
Sorry to hear that stay strong
So sorry to hear you have lost your mum. I lost my mum when I was 25 and I lost my dad 6 years ago around Christmas time. It will all be very raw now for your, but take time to heal and let yourself grieve. This is all part of the natural grieving process which takes some time. Try to think of all the good times you had and share your thoughts and feelings with those around you, which can help. It helps you to come to terms with what has happened. Best wishes to you and your family.
So very sorry to hear your sad news, losing a parent is one of the hardest things in life. Losing a parent at Christmas time is worse. My husband lost his mother on Boxing Day, it was an awful time for everyone. You are in my thoughts and prayers, hugs X X
Hope youre ok xx
So sorry to hear you've lost your mum, sending love and prayers to you and your family xx
Please know how very sorry I feel for you, will pray that God watches over you and your Family. Please try and take. Care of yourself.
My thoughts and best wishes for you and your family at this sad time bless you.
I am so sorry to hear that. I lost my Dad two years ago during the holidays. I understand. Yes the pain of that sitting and all the stress and emotions from losing your Mum will be all over the place. Prayers and thoughts to you.
so very very sorry for you and your family i lost my mum many yrs ago but still talk to her and dad i feel them with me every time time i am going through a difficult period be it pain increase ,a hospital stay , an emotional upset . Many people do not believe it can happen but ido .I know you may not believe this pain can ever go away or lessen it can get easier because you learn how to cope putting happy memories in place of the sad whatever you do please remember grief comes in stages like pain, it is less or more sometimes according to how you feel yourself. the best thing you can do is take care of yourself eating properly and taking any medication as prescribed God bless you keeping you in my prayers
So sorry to hear of you mum's passing, this is my first post, but I thought your story was most fitting, that I had to make my first. Hope your emotions settle and you give your mum the send off, she rightfully deserves.
I am so, so sorry for your loss. Wendy x
So sorry to hear this hun - God bless you and your family it's bad enough to lose a loved one at the best of times but worse at Christmas time as it's all about family. 😔😔😔 take care hugsnkisses on their way. 😘😘😘🤗🤗🤗🤗
Akela6 I've just remembered I got this when I lost my mum in 1988 hope it helps.
Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away into the next room. I am I and you are you.
Whatever we we were to each other that we still are. Call me by my old familiar name - speak to me in an easy way which you always used.
Put no difference in your tone - wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Pray - smile - think of me - pray for me. Let my name be the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effect - without the trace of a shadow on it. Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was there is unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am waiting for you - for an interval - somewhere very near - just around the corner. All is well.
I found great comfort in this poem and keep it with me always in my purse. Goodnight and God bless.
Yes this its beautiful and is inscribed on the wall at. Chapel of rest when my dad passed 20 year s ago and got a copy bit she will be all around
Haven't really used thw site before but I'm so sorry for your loss. It's been a bad year for so many people I had 9 friends lose one of their parents within a 2 mth period ....and my dad was also I'll with lung clot and my mum has now broken her arm at age 85 first break ever........I worry so much about her (don't get on well with my dad at all for years but mum is my rock and I'm hers) have no idea how I would.cope losing her so you have my deepest deepest sympathy. Gentle hugs
I am sorry to hear that, please don't give up,
Hi Im so sorry for the loss of your mum, There are no words to console you but try and be strong, this is so it helps control your pain., I like you have been sitting on hospital seats watching over my very sick mum of 87. I know she has had a good life, but nothing prepares you for such a sad loss. I wish I could give you a gentle hug. I dont know if your in the UK but im taking a med called oxynorm and this is a fast acting release to take the edge off the pain. Please stay in touch kindest regards Jocelyne in the UK
I can't add anything, to what's already been said-so I'll 'echo' it, if there is anything that I (we) can do please let me know-I will pray for you akela.
Hi all,just an update firstly thank you all for your kind loving replies I do apologize for not replying but things went downhill a bit more in sense of after registering mums death on day of 5th jan I was rushed to hospital with my other major problem of asthma+pneumonia and got out 8pm the night before mums funeral! I ended up in and out 5 times and was finally discharged the night of her birthday of 14th Feb.
I'm now in total different dilemma with my other issue of chronic pain. After I saw a pain specialist who opened appointment with I don't really know why you are here!!! Turns out that the strong pain relief I have been put on professionals has caused me to to develop OPIATE PAIN HYPERSENSITIVITY or like that and the only answer is to do a pain management course and come off all meds!!! I'm terrified in alot of pain and just don't know what way to turn and how to cope!!!!!
Severe back pain, update 
Update on pain management. 
Postherpetic neuralgia from Shingles
