Sorry can't sleep

Sorry can't sleep

My brave beautiful Vivien sadly passed way yesterday morning having lost her battle with this dreaded decease.

I looked after her for the past 6 months and kept her at home until the final 4 days before she had to go into the hospice.

She was an amazing women who i am going miss so much.

The picture is me and Vivien on Lake Garda last June 10 days before she 1st went to see the Doctor.

She's at peace now,sleep well sweetheart.

Craig xx

56 Replies

  • Hello Craig,

    I am so sorry that Vivien lost her battle yesterday. Words seem so trite at times like this but I know you will receive warm thoughts from fellow members here which I do hope provide some comfort for you and your family. 

    Along with this photo you will have many happy memories to recount over the coming days and weeks of places you visited together. Do stay in touch here if that is what helps you, at those times when you can't sleep and family and friends are not about to share your thoughts with.

    I do hope you can, in time, draw some strength from the fact you cared for Vivien at home, making those last week's comfortable for her.

    Take care Craig and do look after yourself, please don't be afraid to ask for support you too have been through a tough 6 months or so.


  • So sorry for your loss xxx

  • Dear Craig. What a beautiful photo.  I am so sorry.  Xxx

  • My heart and prayers go to you Craig. Only you know the pain your feeling right now. I hope you can find solice in the fact she was with you all the way and you with her. At peace now and in your heart and memories. 

    God Bless xx

  • Dear Craig, I am so sorry for your loss. It is wonderful that yo could care for her, at home, and the beautiful memories you have will be precious. Xxx

  • So sorry Craig, it is indeed a beautiful photo, take care of yourself, Kerry x

  • Dear Craig, there's nothing I can say or write to make this dreadful time any better for you. All I can say is that I'm thinking of you and of Vivien - your photo shows a loving, happy couple and your happiness shines through. This is a hard, dark time and I send you as much strength as I can to help you. Take care of yourself as much as you can, you were there for Vivien and that was so important; I couldn't manage without my husband and I know you gave her strength and love which was so very important.


  • Thinking of you Craig... Don't know what else to say it is so sad xx

  • What beautiful picture.

    I am so sorry to hear your news. It sounds like you did a wonderful job of caring for Vivien. Remember to try and take care of yourself x

  • Sorry to hear that Craig. I am sure you were a great comfort to her, and knowing how much you helped will in turn help you over the next few days and months while your grief is raw and hurts so much. That you had some enjoyable time together fairly recently will help too.

  • Dear Craig, am truly sorry for your loss.

    What a beautiful photograph of you both. I hope that the happy memories and love that you shared with Vivien, will give you some comfort during your time of grieving.

    Jackie O X

  • So sorry for your loss.

  • Hello Craig,

    A beautiful photo, and I am so sorry to read Viven has passed away.

    I can understand how you feel having lost my husband in January, just take it one day at a time and remember the good times.

    Wishing you all the best. X

  • Sending you my condolences. I am so sorry

    LA xx

  • Everyone has said it all,but you were with Viviene throughout and such a support to her, it is a lovely photo and it's difficult at the moment but you will look back over the memories with fondness and it will get you through.

    I do hope you have good friends and a supportive family as you will need them and as others have said we always here for a chat as no one quite knows what you are going through as people that are going through it too.

    Best wishes Craig


  • Sorry to hear of your loss, my wife (Christina) died from OC nearly 3 years ago after having it for the best part of 3 years.

    I wish I could offer words of wisdom, but all I can really say is I hope that you, like me, find comfort in memories and the fact that she is at rest and free from suffering, and that you get support from family and friends.

    It doesn't necessarily get easier, but you will cope with it easier as time goes by,  the next week or so will not be easy but you will get through it, we all owe it to our wifes and families to keep going and remember the good times and celebrate their lives.

    Take good care of you.


  • So so sorry for your loss 😢 Look after yourself xx 

  • Sending condolences. How wonderful that she had you to care for her. I hope you are surrounded by family and friends who bring strength and comfort.

  • So sad..beautiful photo for you to treasure...bless you x

  • So sad and a huge loss.  The picture is beautiful.  Sending love.  

  • I'm so sorry for your loss Craig you and your family are in my thoughts - sincere condolences / Trish 

  • You are in my thoughts and prayers Craig, such a lovely photo of you and Vivienne . Love Bridie.

  • I'm so sorry to read your sad post about your beloved Vivien, Craig. My heart goes out to you. I know there are no words that I can write that will ease your pain but I send my love and sympathy. I will be thinking of you.

    Take care of yourself, Solange xx

  • So very sorry Craig to hear of you loosing Vivien to this terrible disease, the photo of you both is beautiful. My thoughts are with you at this sad Julie x

  • Dear Craig

    I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you can draw comfort from all your happy memories to see you through the dark times you now face. My thoughts are with you and your family. Do take care of yourself.

    Love Ali xx

  • Many prayers for you and your family's comfort. 

  • So sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful wife. I hope all the wonderful memories lessen your heart ache . Be sure to seek out support for yourself and take any help offered . I think it's sometimes overlooked that our partners travel the same road with us DVDs it's no less traumatic or sad. Take time for yourself and hope you are surrounded with family and friends . Your wife will always be with you in spirit , x

  • Sorry about type meant and not dvds

  • So, so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

    Love Kaz xx

  • I am sorry to hear thoughts are with you.


  • My sympathies to and your family Craig.x 

  • Extremely Extremely saddened at the news/ I went completely blank on first read....... RIP Vivien. We can try and control everything except....... 

    And Craig, may God give you the strength to face this irreparable loss. 


  • So sad to read this Craig. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you learn to cope without your lovely wife. What a gorgeous picture.  Wishing you love and strength. Sandra x

  • Craig, I'm so sorry for your loss.  This disease is so harsh and unfair.  The photo of you both is beautiful.  Words are not enough.  Thinking of you. Ann x

  • So sorry that you have lost your lovely wife. I'm sure you have many fond memories of good times to sustain you which in time will fill you with happiness that you had her by your side. x

  • Craig,

    So sorry for the loss of Vivian.  What a great picture of you both looking so happy! 

    Mind yourself and take care. 


  • So very sorry, Craig.  Bless you for caring for her.  Vx

  • Dear Craig

    So sorry to hear the sad news that Vivienne has passed away .

    The photograph is beautiful, May your fond memories of special times give you comfort at this hard time x

  • I am so sad and sorry  Craig to read about your dear beautiful Vivien. I cannot even imagine your heartbreak. There are no words of comfort I can offer but you know that being there for her meant that she knew she was loved so much. You will always know that and will have no regrets that you didn't do your very best. May God comfort you . Please keep in touch when you need to talk . Take care

  • So many of us , on this site , are thinking of you as well as your family and friends .

    Dreadful , so dreadful for you ; we have all lost yet another member of this community , and each of us , in our own way share your loss .

    What a wonderful photo . Difficult to believe that she was harbouring the disease then , such a short time ago .

    Do post whenever you need to . 

  • Such a lovely photo. My thoughts & prayers are with you

  • So sorry for your loss . My thoughts , prayers are with you . 

  • I am so sorry for your loss, it is hard to lose someone you love.  You did your very best for Vivien and be proud of this.  Thinking of you at this time

  • I too am saddened by your loss and hope you can take comfort from the happy times you shared. We are all here for you when or if you need us xx


  • Dear Craig

    So sorry to hear this. You made her remaining time on earth easier. Be kind to you self and when you are ready enjoy your memories of her. X

  • Craig

    I am so sorry to hear Vivian passed away, no words will take your pain away right now but try to draw strength from the memories you have.


  • I'm so sorry for your loss xx

  • So sorry for your loss Craig. Thankyou for sharing your lovely photograph of yourself and Vivien. Lxx

  • Thank you everyone for your kind messages and kind thoughts.

    Really overwhelmed with the amount of replies.

    Thank you Craig xxx

  • Beautiful photo, so sorry for your loss 

  • So sorry Craig, you look a beautiful couple. Talk about Vivien whenever you can. It must have been such a shock to lose Vivien I really can't think of words of comfort other than you must have some wonderful memories. Take care Carole Herbert x

  • A beautiful photo!!  I am so sorry for your loss of Vivien.  You are in my thoughts & prayers. Blessings to you!


  • So very sorry to hear of your loss Craig,  take comfort in the knowledge you were by her side through it all,  and in time from all your memories of happy moments like the photo.   Madeline xx

  • So sad to read this Craig.  What a beautiful photo and a special memory.   Love and prayers xo

  • So sorry to read this my thoughts with you  and thank you for sharing 


  • Hi Craig. Beautiful photograph. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you will find peace and happiness in the future. Jo x

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