fear of dying at age 15

[rachelnewman]

hi everyone. ny name is Rachel. I am having a fear of dying and puking in middle of night. don't know why. but just wanted to tell u. but I am only 15 years old. is anybody else having this kind of problem? let me know.

[TinaB1]

Hi Rachel.. This is a site for people with Ovarian cancer and those affected by it so you may have not come to the right place.

A lot of people worry about dying. I think those feelings are normal. I would suggest going back to sleep as it's very late. If you have these worries constantly, I think it would be a good thing to get help from your parents.

[Hidden in reply to TinaB1]

Hi Rachel, the medical term for this is thanatophobia and there are support groups.Good luck xx

[hannah98 in reply to TinaB1]

Hello Rachel,

How awful for you to have these up setting thoughts and fears about dying. As the lady has said it is not unusual to have worrying thoughts about dying especially if you have lost a member of your family or friend?

I know its no good us telling you to try and forget these worries but there will be somebody who can help you manage these thoughts so you can get on with your life and enjoy the everyday things.

If you feel you would like to get some support you should try and tell either a parent, school nurse or your local doctor. They will all be able to guide you to the best person to help you.

This site is not going to be very helpful to you as the ladies here are going through medical treatment for cancer. You need a specialist suitable for your age and needs.

I really hope you can speak to somebody suitable so you can start enjoying the long, wonderful and exciting life that is ahead of you. Life is for living, worry about dying when your 90 !

xxxxx

[LesleyGreengran]

Hello Rachel

I'm so sorry you are feeling like that. I can remember having such thoughts when I was in my teens, though I thought it was a nuclear bomb that was going to finish everyone off. Yet here I still am, with cancer, but enjoying life, at 66. Having fears in the middle of the night is something many people seem to have. I've been a counsellor in a GP surgery and they have told me about it. You really need to find someone to talk to because you can get help and get over what must be frightening and worrying for you. Talk to a parent if you can, or find someone at school or college who you can trust. Or you may be able to go to your doctor. You can do that by yourself if there's no-one you trust.

I hope you get over this soon but do please talk to someone about it. Throwing up is a natural reaction to a fearful sitiation but if that's happening you must be getting very wound up and you need to find a way of calming yourself down.

Good luck

Lesley

[microferret]

Hi Rachel. I have had the same problem - it is called thanatophobia and is usually linked to depression. Do you have any other problems in your life which you feel could be causing your low mood? Is there a professional that you could talk to? Perhaps go to see your GP and ask to be referred to a counsellor or mental health professional.

You do not need to feel like this. I have found that medication and changing the things in my life that made me depressed have helped tremendously. Reading about the actual process of dying has also made me much less afraid. I now no longer worry about death and I have lost all the symptoms of anxiety that came along with it (poor sleep, heart palpitations, racing thoughts etc).

I hope this helps you - please feel free to message me if you need to.

S

[ingrid48]

Hi Rachel,

I have a granddaughter almost 15 and she recently had some anxiety and panic because she changed school. U may be going through some changes or u may simply be growing into a woman, realizing that death is part of life. But u have a full life in front of u. Enjoy it. Go to your parents or school nurse and discuss this with a professional helper.

It's more normal than u think..but hear this .most. of us are older and fear death too because we have cancer..i am 67 and fighting the 4Th cancer since 40...i still try to enjoy life..

Have faith, God has a purpose for u..

All my love

Ingrid

[Bluehen]

Dear Rachael, I think you have reached out to our site for a reason. Doesn't matter what disease we have, whether it be physical or mental, our fears are our worse enemy. Whatever your religion, pray for comfort and peace. Talk to a doctor, they may be able to give you something to help you with your anxiety.

[Bluehen in reply to Bluehen]

I am praying for peace and comfort for you. Don't be afraid to ask for help. your school nurse, your doctor, your church or religious group, your friends. Don't suffer alone. Bless you and feel the comfort I am sending you with hugs.

[jackiebowles]

The above posts are good and supportive except in one respect. Several posts suggest among other things "talking to a parent/your parents". Please, when saying this to any child or young person, always, always add "or a carer". Imagine being a child in care, or a child living with a relative (aunt, grandparent etc) and not with a parent or parents. The isolation of being in that situation is bad enough. Anyone who neglects this possibility is only making that isolation worse. It may feel a little odd at first to say "parent or carer" but it soon becomes automatic. It should ALWAYS be automatic for anyone involved in a support group.

[Fabio-Chavez]

My name is Fabio I am 15, and I am afraid of death. I have the fear of what happens to me when i die. I think i’m most afraid of this because when i think of life after death i think of a black and blank world.