Log in
Oesophageal Patients Association
4,217 members2,470 posts

Finally surgery this tuesday

Mum is finally due for surgery this week after a delay. Everyone very anxious and emotional. Can anyone make any suggestions to ease the "see you tomorrow" for mum & dad (and me)?😕

11 Replies
oldestnewest

It's difficult but try to look at the surgery as part of a longer process which will unfold step by step. Be positive and engage in being a part of it. You are all in this together and will come through it all together. Believe that and you will be stronger and better. It is working for me as we speak.

4 likes
Reply

This is the most anxious time but also the most emotional. After the operation all I felt was relief that the cancer was gone and I was on the road to recovery. And I,m sure you will all feel the same

Phil

5 likes
Reply

i feel for you im having my surgery this Sat 20th Aug ,And i feel the same saying goodbye to my Husband and Son ,i know i cant say anything to make you feel better but sending you my love and hope your Mum soon get well x

1 like
Reply

I agree with what Phil has said after the operation it is such a relief that the cancer has been removed, it's a weight off your shoulders. I know just how you are feeling at this time and its easy for me to say but if you can try to feel positive. My thoughts are with you.

3 likes
Reply

It was over 40 years ago the David Kirby, who founded the OPA, had the surgery. It is not the surgery itself that is the threat, but the cancer that will be removed. But it is very natural to feel emotional about loved one's going into surgery; it's the price of love.

2 likes
Reply

Possibly the most traumatic time was the 2 month delay in getting the operation and not knowing what the future holds. Never did I ever think that I would still be here 22yrs later. Take each day one at a time, it does get better. As Alan says the cancer should be gone. There is a lot of support out there. Thinking of you Sally

4 likes
Reply

This site is the best source of comfort, the many voices of those who have all been where your mum is now and are here to tell the tale, pool their experiences, and shine the beacon of surviving this horrid disease. The imminent surgical procedure means your mum is amongst the fortunate minority for whom this opportunity exists: she's on the threshold of a new lease of life. No one here will gainsay the anxieties that attend this process but eligibility is a solid prognosis of cure: the consultant wouldn't proceed without this belief. Don't forget to pack ear plugs. Good sleep is an essential part of recovery and when she's out of critical care and back on the ward, silence is golden!

6 likes
Reply

It is worse for the caregivers than the person having the surgery - I hope that is some comfort. I had a total response to the chemo but wanted and needed the surgery to be able to not look back afterwards, though it does change you. I had two children post my surgery.

6 likes
Reply

Thanks everyone. We got through yesterday and mum will be with anaesthetics already. Onwards and upwards :D

11 likes
Reply

Thinking of you and your mum

Reply

Just put your faith in the medical team. We have some of the best people in the world. It will be the start of a long journey but every journey starts with the first step. The anxiety is sometimes worse for the family rather then the patient as I learnt during my operation.

Reply

You may also like...