Since being on biologics and mtx I have totally lost my sex drive or maybe it has nothing to do with the meds has anyone had the same issue and if so what did they do ? Thanks .
Biologics and sex drive : Since being on biologics and... - NRAS
I'm with Sylvi in that, sex is not something that features for me now, i am on same meds as you. I think it was affected before I started the biologics, just more due to the impact of RA on my body and the pain, so it wasn't really something to look forward to as it was difficult, now I am in remission with the meds I guess it might be easier, but still aware that my body is still awkward and very reactive to any strain so still not keen. I don't think it's the sex drive itself but my attitude to it that has changed. I am now looking forward to the menopause as I am 51 and see what delights that brings!
I have been on MTX for about 7 months finally moving up to 20mg injections about 8 weeks ago. I was still not quite pain free and I'm taking 2.5mg prednisolone per day - down from 10mg several weeks ago. Taking the steroids brought my sex drive back as I feel so much better overall. I don't plan to be on steroids for ever but at 2.5mg/day I don't think I'm in any immediate danger!
I was the same and put a post up years ago on the same thing ..... but I think it was the pain and fatigue that was making me nervous. So I took the pressure of by talking to hubby and saying how sore and tired I was.
Then I had baths, painkillers and I got soft massages from him and hugs instead. As I improved the drive came back .
I think I felt unwell, had gained weight , and was not in a good place .
I think look at the leaflet in your meds but I havent seen it as a side effect. So work on your pain relief a d just being close , dont put pressure on yourself as it makes things worse.
Things do get better xxxx
Excellent post. I was just about to say as soon as your joints feel better and you are less ouch then you are more interested in intimacy as no one wants to be doing the wild thing (or not so wild?!😳🤪) when they feel in so much pain. I know there are some ARC leaflets on the subject as I took one for my friend’s hubby (and got a weird look from the people in the physio waiting room but I wasn’t bothered .. the literature is there to help) and we read it in the restaurant before she took it home for him as his back was driving him mad but he was sad he wasn’t being intimate with her. They even gave some very tasteful diagrams of gentle positions. Nothing karma sutra don’t worry!! LOL. (Not that I’ve ever read it though ....) Yes we had a smile about it all but why not and yes we learned a few things reading it. I’m going to see if I can find it online. The best thing of all is to not go silent. As you say Alannah to talk and reassure someone you still want them but you’re feeling fatigued and in pain is the thing to do. xx
There's some helpful advice on the NRAS website and a booklet that you can download or have send to you about relationships. It's very common with any long term illness to feel unattractive and unsexy. And the caring relationship that has to develop between you and the person you live with alters the way that you feel about them and yourself - sort of patient/carer instead of partners.
It's common - but you sound as if you want to do something about it and that's the first step.
Yup I’ve had the .. I’m the ugliest woman in the world so you won’t want to see me or touch me as my joints are ugly ... and my husband said .. you are not to think that as I love you whatever. The steroids at the time made me go a bit loopy with paranoia so probably why, but yes the download booklet might be similar to what I saw.