Has anyone any advice about controlling anxiety? I have had a lot of family problems this year (the serious illness of my husband and my father dying) and it has become very obvious that anxiety has a tremendous effect on my RA. Thankfully my family issues are sorting themselves out but this has highlighted the anxiety I feel when I need to be well, especially for specific occasions. I am deeply concerned that I shall let people down, even my friends who I know totally understand and are more than happy to rearrange things to accommodate my flares. This started with my sister and parents believing all the encouraging things they read on line and thinking that my pain was self-inflicted because I would not eat a particular food or join the local gym or take up jogging, etc. - we have all read these supposedly inspirational stories of people with very different RA stories to our own. They understand now but it took a long time and has resulted in me worrying excessively if I have to be well for a particular occasion.
I have tried everything I can think of to stop being a worryguts and would welcome any suggestions anyone might have.