So, the real reason I started to seek out a support network of folks dealing with arthritis was to get some advice or nuggets of experience from others who have dealt with the challenges of being a mum with an illness.
Due to marriage difficulties stemming from dealing with my illness, I am now a single Mum with two kids. I have had to get back to work 4 days to try and support us as much as possible.
My most unanswered issue lies though with how do I encourage the nurturing and responsible side of my eldest? She’s 10. She is a fiesty, funny and creative kid but also a total ditz, messy and at times careless and really challenging. I really want her to learn to see that the impact of her leaving everything behind her in a mess on the floor is utterly exhausting for me and leaves me with less energy and time to spend with her and her brother. Her little brother is naturally empathetic, sensitive and kind. And tidy (well for a 6 year old!) I barely need to ask him once to help.
I want to get the balance right of not making her feel put upon because I’m ill, but equally I would be wanting her to be more responsible at this stage anyways as she is 10 year old!
Another thing I wondered was has anyone seen anything out there to help kids deal or understand life with a sick parent? I know there is tons of great literature especially from NRAS about adult relationships but is there anything similar for children?
Anything helpful thoughts most appreciated!