After telling her about my diagnosis of RA, my underwhelmed friend said she has "a bit of RA in her shoulder". She also said she hadn't been referred to a rheumatologist because it was "just" RA. and then went on to tell me what I should eat. I swallowed my annoyance and tried gently to explain that RA is a whole body, auto immune, chronic disease and there was nothing just about it, and that there was a lot of conflicting information about diet and different things work for different people and she refused to concede and insisted she was right, so I changed the subject.
I've found that some of my friends have been like this... Minimising the impact of my diagnosis while telling me what to do. Others have been great, saying something like "that sucks. Do you want to talk about it / tell me a bit more about it?" I know this is a bit of a generalisation, but the girls tend to be the ones who minimise and instruct and the boys listen and empathise. I prefer the latter.
How have you coped with friends' reactions?