why do people say its too hard?

Seriously, People try and give up then say ahh its too hard i cant do it, its pathetic an inanimite object cannot jump up into you're mouth and light itself up, YOU CHOOSE to put in and light it up.

Or making excuses for not trying to give up like i have too much stress going on right now. i want to stop but i cant. really, reaaly? you cant how can you not stop give me one good reason why you cant. the only excuse i will take is my arms are controlled by someone else i cant control my arms. that excuse can never be real so there is none, you want to stop smoking well damn well stop, not in a day or two or a week from now or after such and such date NOW.

stop being pathetic and quit.

The thought of a fag now makes me feel sick, the smell of smokers repulses me to the core.

im sick of people telling me well done for not smoking, well done really?? not smoking warrants a well done no it certainly does not.

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  • i dont need people telling me well done, im not 5 years old learning to count for the first time.

  • well done

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  • yes - well done. :p

  • i dont need people telling me well done, im not 5 years old learning to count for the first time.

    well done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well do:D:D:D:D

  • Seriously, People try and give up then say ahh its too hard i cant do it, its pathetic an inanimite object cannot jump up into you're mouth and light itself up, YOU CHOOSE to put in and light it up.

    Or making excuses for not trying to give up like i have too much stress going on right now. i want to stop but i cant. really, reaaly? you cant how can you not stop give me one good reason why you cant. the only excuse i will take is my arms are controlled by someone else i cant control my arms. that excuse can never be real so there is none, you want to stop smoking well damn well stop, not in a day or two or a week from now or after such and such date NOW.

    stop being pathetic and quit.

    The thought of a fag now makes me feel sick, the smell of smokers repulses me to the core.

    im sick of people telling me well done for not smoking, well done really?? not smoking warrants a well done no it certainly does not.

    I think that the nature of addiction varies from person to person, I have always said that if you get the mind right the rest will follow and that is where a lot of people struggle.

    Your comments are in many ways true but equally they are somewhat like going up to an anorexic person and saying "just eat something you idiot" while that is indeed what they have to do getting to the point where they both accept the fact and carry it through can take significant work.

    The nature of this addiction is that people think that their "suffering" can be lifted by just having a puff and resistance is like trying to not scratch an itch. In order to heal people do need to resist the urge to "scratch" but some will find that a lot easier than others.

    Now the nature of the forum is is that we are here to support, encourage and advise one and other which is why people say well done and to throw that back at people seems somewhat ungracious.

    If the 89 in your user name denotes your year of birth then its worth remembering that most of the members here are a lot older and younger quitters do tend to find it easier as they aren't quite so set in their ways. The fact you've found it easy is great, so did I really, but I think a little empathy for those that don't wouldn't hurt either.

  • i dont need people telling me well done, im not 5 years old learning to count for the first time.

    Then I'm delighted for you.

    However, this is a quitters' support forum, so most of us on here do find it hard and do need support and praise for beating the addiction.

  • Yes - well done :p

  • have read past post 13/3/2013 ,seems some people forget they find quiting hard in first weeks .

  • big well done to all x

  • This has really quite annoyed me.

    Well done to the OP, even though you dont think you deserve any praise the tone of the post and derrogatory nature to those who may find it hard suggest that you will actually revel in congratulation on being awesome.

    Some people find being kind and sympathetic easy, others hard, some people find giving up smoking easy, others hard. We arent the same, thank whoever you like for that.

    I agree with Teflon.

    My first thoughts on the original post, were that we should be feeling ashamed of ourselves for finding quitting difficult.

    I honestly thought that the post was a joke, because it seemed as though all the poeple using this forum were being mocked.

    Everyone's quit is different and if yours has been easy then that's great. it doesn't mean that we are all weak for needing help and advice from others.

  • I think the clue's in the name OP has chosen. Pretentious moi?

  • well done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well done well done well done well done well done well done well donewell done well do:D:D:D:D

    Thanks Will !!

    Best in the World89

    So, quitting's easy!! Im pleased you found it so simple, you should bottle your technique and present it to ' Dragons Den '

    I too have found this, my latest quit relatively easy (unlike my other failed attempts) however, I'll never be complacent. I do think this is 'the one' for me, but I and many, many others still have great empathy for those amongst us that are maybe struggling.

    So, please try to consider everyone else's feelings, a 'Well Done' can mean the world to someone whose feeling at a low ebb.

    Everyone loves a bit of praise!

    Thank you

    Fi

  • I am glad bestintheworld89 found it so easy. I'd love to know his/her age, and how may were smoked a day??

    I had a friend who only ever smoked 2 cigs a day one at lunchtime and one in the evening - she had done this for years. I could never understand it myself, but she did give up and found it remarkably easy to do so, well she would do, because 2 a day is not like smoking at all.

    During the 60s and 70s hard to believe now, but there were men and women who only ever smoked 'socially' when they went out for a drink. I can never get my head around smoking 'socially' but there are many people in my age group who will not be surprised to hear this.

    Before I say any more I'd love another post from this person bestintheworld89 maybe we can have some answers eh?

    Incidentally, people are here because they want to stop, they don't need your scorn or useless comments.

  • I had a friend who only ever smoked 2 cigs a day one at lunchtime and one in the evening - she had done this for years. I could never understand it myself, but she did give up and found it remarkably easy to do so, well she would do, because 2 a day is not like smoking at all.

    Oh heck, someone i know came out with a right cracker just before I quit.

    She told me she knew all about stopping smoking 'cos she used to have a fag in the evenings (literally one) and didn't like giving it up. :confused:

    During the 60s and 70s hard to believe now, but there were men and women who only ever smoked 'socially' when they went out for a drink. I can never get my head around smoking 'socially' but there are many people in my age group who will not be surprised to hear this.

    Doesn't surprise me either, 'cos I did that for a time. :)

  • Yes - well done :rolleyes:

  • Quitting is hard.For a very few people it might be easy-I have never met anyone who found it easy :rolleyes:

    Forums like this (Especially this forum) provide a service of self help and support to the many many quitters who are struggling to beat this and are wrestling with a beast,and to that end this facility is absolutely brilliant,end of.;)

    I've heard of one, my great uncle was a chain-smoker and was told he might have lung cancer. As soon as he had the word, he never smoked again *but* he's the only one I know of.

    Personally, it was a mix of OK, easyish and utter hell.

  • The only person I ever heard say quitting was easy was a guy I used to work with in the 80s who loved to blow his own trumpet, so we tended to take things he told us with a huge pinch of salt - (though he didn't know this). He only smoked in the evenings when he went for a pint, so not what I'd call a huge smoker.

    I met him a few years back and he told me he quit and that it was the easiest thing he'd ever done.

    Was this only because he smoked a few or was this more salt - don't know.

    I don't believe him though.

    Everyone i have discussed it with has found it one of the hardest things in their lives.

  • Giving up smoking is the hardest thing i've ever done (sounds pathetic but it's true)

    This is my 5th & final quit but to say the first quits were easy would be stupid & a lie because I'm on my 5th!! I learnt a lot from those first 4 quits & that's why i'm so secure in this one... I love people saying well done to me, it's a big achievement for me & sad as it sounds smoking was my friend for nearly 35 years but now it is my enemy & I like it that way - at arms length at all times.

    So well done Mr bestinthewold89 because unless you have quit for over a year or more I wouldn't be so sure you've cracked it, cockiness is never an attractive feature so step back & think why you are on this forum!!

    Denise :)

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