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Hi,

Been quit for One week now nearly. It's been really hard and I struggle a lot in the mornings and living with smokers. The thing that keeps me going is that just six days ago I was on 20 a day. I cant believe how far I've come. However, whilst I really don't think there's a risk of me starting whilst on 'quit' mode in the school holidays, I'm worried that i start a new job tomorrow and ill be nervous, anxious and stressed and with the workload and 300 new kids to deal with I'm worried I might 'come out of quit mode' and think look, this new job is enough to deal with. I don't need additional stress. I really am trying not to, and the point of my quit was to go to this job a non smoker, before starting a routine. It's hard though, and this should be why I'm quitting. But you know what its like I'm worried about the triggers. :( also any ideas on how to help me in the mornings?

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You have a lot of great reasons to quit, keep focusing on those, and also focus on the positive feeling of being free from an addiction that has pretty much had you running for a smoke on the hour every hour. People romanticize smoking, giving cigarettes qualities they don't even have and that often causes the cravings. Don't think they will help you with stress at school tomorrow, they won't.... they would make your day more stressful. They would also not make you more relaxed or help you think better... it's only because of the relief of getting a hit, that you feel momentarily better but of course then you need another one.... keep reminding yourself of this when you struggle and remember also that the healing phase is temporary and you will get through this. You have your whole life ahead of you and trust me, it will be so so much better if you are not stuck in the nicotine trap. Good luck tomorrow. I start in the schools again today :(;)

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A big well done on your first week - you are doing BRILLIANTLY. Of course you will be anxious about starting a new job etc - and I think it's a good sign that you're anticipating triggers and thinking ahead about how you will cope with them.

Bella's right of course - however much your brain will try to tell you that a cigarette is just what you need, it would only add to your stress. Any worries/problems/anxiety would still be there .... and you'd have the additional stress of being FURIOUS with yourself. In my worst moments I tell myself - OK, so I can have a cigarette if I really want one. But what will I do 10 minutes later when it is finished? It is easier to say no to ONE than the hundreds which would doubtless follow ... Because one is NEVER enough...

Just focus on a day/half day/hour or even minute at a time when those triggers/cravings strike. Get some mints, gum, sweets - anything which you think might help. As for the mornings - I had to change my entire morning routine for the first few weeks. Instead of tea/coffee and toast, I made myself have lemon/mint tea and some fruit/yoghurt (no, I didn't fancy it, but I just made myself think of it as helpful!). I grabbed the paper and sat somewhere different with it. I got up later so I had less time and had to rush a bit. I did as many things 'differently' as I could - which helped to break the associations.

You've come so far and done so well - it's really tough getting through that first week, and things really WILL get better if you hang on in there. Honestly.

Good luck for tomorrow! Let us know how you get on -

Sue

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hey Monster.

just do it without smoking, do everything now without smoking, its a bit alien at first and you may tell yourself its better with a cigarette but its a lie...soon you will be glad to be doing things without a cigarette... keep going ,the freedom is truly awesome. ps it does get easier and life gets a whole lot better.

Mash x:cool:

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I know you're all right, and that cigarettes can't change anything. even though you think they can. Right going to bed, here goes.... !

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hey Monster.

just do it without smoking, do everything now without smoking, its a bit alien at first and you may tell yourself its better with a cigarette but its a lie...soon you will be glad to be doing things without a cigarette... keep going ,the freedom is truly awesome. ps it does get easier and life gets a whole lot better.

Mash x:cool:

Yes, this is it exactly!

The best thing to do is take each cigarette (that you don't smoke) at a time. But sometimes, just sometimes you become frightenly aware of the HUGE hole in your life that smoking has left. It's like teetering on the edge of a huge cliff and trying not to fall over. I hate heights as well!

I wish I had started giving up before I retired 3 years ago. When you are retired and can do exactly as you please, you haven't got those chunks of work shifts when you can't smoke anyway, to get you through the day.

I'm not complaining or anything, I love my retirement, just saying that's it's a double-edged sword when it comes to giving up.

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Hi, you're doing great so don't let go - first week is awful but you're into week 2 and it does get easier. Day 16 for me so just hang in there and take it day by day. So far I've had to contend with family rows, drinking and job interviews - believe me if I can do this, you can to - I never thought I would, or could be here but I am - so you can be too. Good luck and stay strong

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Hey, well it wasn't work I found tough today surprisingly. I kept really busy and everybody was not smoking. It was when I came home at half 6. I had timetables changed and I have a buckling workload. I've not really had time for dinner, I'm very stressed and pretty fag desperate. I've tried to replace it with cups of coffee, but now I'm sick of coffee. I've had very low appetite since I quit and I'm struggling with eating. I've also had really distubed sleep. I wake up dead awake about three times each night. I then got up at six again. I feel really stressed and low. I just want to sleep normally and eat again and have a fag. I'm trying so hard but finding it very difficult. Stopping smoking has made me feel kinda crappy :( dealing with this is hard.

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I tried to quit caffeine too, but I felt worse. I feel so low about it. Also, coffee is my treat. It's how I replace having a fag. Without that, there's nothing. I just feel so physically screwed up since i quit. When does the insomnia stop? Last night I woke up at three am desperate to smoke, like my brain ganged up on me when I was asleep. My loss of appetite sucks too. Atent you supposed to eat more when you quit?

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:(

sorry to hear your having a rough time of it atm Monster

but

well done on getting through your first week

:)

your sleep will improve just try not to lie in bed thinking about the time and checking the clock thats the worse thing you can do instead as Kari said try abit of self pampering and try some relaxation techniques or tapping if your not heard of that go to tapping.com its a great site and there are free videos you can watch to help you

thinking positive thoughts (i know thats easier said then done:rolleyes:)

but it does help and waking up each morning saying to yourself

i will not smoke today

you can only take one day one hour one minute at a time dont think too far ahead and before you know it another week will have gone by

onwards and upwards is the only way to go

:)

hugs

Carol

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