First off, I am not the smoker, it is my mother. She has smoked for 45 years. In January she was admitted to hospital with pneumonia. She spent three weeks in Intensive Care, mostly on a ventilator through a trachy. They were giving here nicotine patched to help her cravings and these were gradually phased out as the physical dependence wore off. She has suspected COPD (which still needs to be definitely diagnosed) and is taking Tiotropium, along with a couple of other inhalers. We don't know the severity of the COPD, but I am resigned to the fact that it will most likely be moderate to severe.
Thankfully, she recovered well from the pneumonia, and was out of hospital within a month. For a couple of months she seemed to be coping fine. Admittedly, she was very weak when coming out of hospital and needed a lot doing for her, which me and my father obliged with (and would not have done otherwise).
Then, having taken a trip on Easter Sunday, she bought some fags. I can't remember my exact reaction, but it was bad. A mixture of complete overwhelming anger and deep sadness. We took the fags off her and threw them away. Not sure whether that was morally the right thing to do, but I feel it would have been the greatest shame for her to have started smoking again. No doubt it would shorten her life more considerably than it already has done.
My question is: What can we do to help her keep off the fags? She says she can't go in to the kitchen without thinking about them (as this is where she used to smoke). She does not go in the kitchen now, but that is only a short term fix. She says she has asked the doctor for help, but he won't help her. I doubt this, but she will not let any of us go with her to the doctors.
As a result of seeing here in Intensive Care, my brother gave up smoking and has threatened that if she starts again she will not be able to see her grandchildren. She is so stubborn, though, I don't think would make any difference. She is determined to start smoking again and I don't know what we can do. She doesn't realise (even after having told her) that it would be a complete kick in the teeth for everybody who has helped her get better.
She doesn't seem to care anymore and that is the saddest thing. She says without the fags her life is empty.