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Hi I am new member. I have stopped smoking for a month now and like most of you have experienced, I am feeling tearful and down! It is reassuring to read some of your message's, knowing that I am not alone on this journey. I have smoked for over thiry years and boy! do I miss it. Still I will keep going, hopefully with some support as I am driving my family up the wall, especially my husband!:rolleyes

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  • Hi Wendy I have started day 27 today and soooo with you. Weekend was awful, how my husband never walked out I dont know. All I am thinking about is smoking again, its like being back at day one :(

  • but we were all driving people up the wall when we were smoking too!! when we kept on and on about how we wanted to quit but couldn't, how we went on and on about our coughs and the colds etc etc etc, and the stress and always popping out to smoke etc etc lol

    really people like us more as non-smokers because we have to deal with life without an emotional crutch, just like they do,

    maybe we don't like ourselves as much (sometimes?), but that's another story.

    if you decide not to smoke today, tomorrow maybe you'll feel better

    if you decide to smoke today, tomorrow you'll be beating yourself up cos you'll be on 20 a day again

    however bad you feel, staying quit is the better option

  • ...I have smoked for over thirty years and boy! do I miss it...

    You're not alone.

    The subconscious trigger, "it is now an acceptable smoking opportunity" is satisfied 20 to 30 times a day and it's the 200-600 repetitions every single day that gives you the habit that we all battle with.

    Let's face it, we had smoking down to a fine art! It took us all a while to master it but we got there in the end.

    Luckily we can learn to not miss it remarkably quickly too, honest. :)

    Coincidentally I honed my habit on Borough Rd walking to the chippie when I was at Birkenhead Tech. Peer pressure and looking cool huh?

  • Hi Wendy

    Sorry you're feeling low, but my goodness look at what you have achieved! Bet a month ago you enver thought you'd get this far!

    Tracey: nonononono,don't you dare, you're 3 days ahead of me and I NEED YOU there encouraging me!!!:D

    Both of you: If you're at work go and stand outside with the smokers (but not for too long just in case) and think bad thoughts about them.

    if you're not at work find the crappiest TV show you can and snuggle up with a HUGE piece of cake as a no-smoking treat.

    e hugs to you both.

  • Hi I am new member. I have stopped smoking for a month now and like most of you have experienced, I am feeling tearful and down! It is reassuring to read some of your message's, knowing that I am not alone on this journey. I have smoked for over thiry years and boy! do I miss it. Still I will keep going, hopefully with some support as I am driving my family up the wall, especially my husband!:rolleyes

    I think Smol<er has said it best.

    But firstly WOW 1 mth is excellent, well done you for getting here.

    I couldn't believe how much I thought about smoking in the beginning. In fact it was my past quits excuse to start again,, can't believe how stupid that was now.

    I only really think of smoking now when I come on here, I don't mind that as it is either for my own ongoing support or to help and support others which is turn reinforces my own quit.

    Seeing how forceful the addiction is in others (and me not so long ago) and there battles to get free from it remind me why I never want to smoke again. Its a horribly possesive thing smoking. Its hard to break free but when you do its amazing the freedom you feel.

    Stick with it. Come and ramble, rant, vent, laugh with us, we'll beat this thing.

    Sian

  • Thanks for all your support, really appreciate it xx

    Sorry Dale - I think there are other womanly factors at work this week :(

    I have just gone to the lift at work and someone has got out after a smoke break - omg I nearly heaved !!! good though - now where's that cake:D

  • Thanks Karri

    Come on Wendy we can do this:D:

  • Sorry Dale - I think there are other womanly factors at work this week :(

    This is something that gets me every month. For a day through PMT I get really nad craves. I had ti Saturday but am fine today :)

  • Hello Wendy,

    I am sorry you are down and you are right, many of us know exactly how you feel. I have read quite a few postive posts this am which have helped, but I am most happy to sit and wallow with you in self pity for a bit. I too am surprised that hubby has not finally snapped with me. I am now starting to feel silly that I am wallowing and happy that I have gone 40 days without doing something totally stupid like caving.

    For me, Austin hit the nail on the head with his "it is now an acceptable smoking opportunity". That is what I am fighting as well as I am sure are you. Aahh Wendy - these feelings shall pass -- we are doing well -- we are not smoking -- we are on the road to the penthouse.

  • Thanks Sian. A bar of chocolate and a walk in the woods with the dogs seems to have done the trick. I dont think Steve has filed divorce papers just yet. :rolleyes: I was also thinking about a City break we are doing in April. It will be the first holiday as a non-smoker ! Cant imagine getting the flight not stressing about cigs or standing outside the Hotel at all hours to get my fix :)

  • Thanks so much for your support!:) Going to have a nice relaxing bath and drink a bottle of wine. Fortunatley no work tomoro (thank god!). A few of you seem to be going cold turkey after a few weeks ditching the patches. I wondered if I might try that myself as I am sure you become addicted to them. I seem to be worse first thing in the morning when I need replace the patch.xxx

  • Hi I am new member. I have stopped smoking for a month now and like most of you have experienced, I am feeling tearful and down! It is reassuring to read some of your message's, knowing that I am not alone on this journey. I have smoked for over thiry years and boy! do I miss it. Still I will keep going, hopefully with some support as I am driving my family up the wall, especially my husband!:rolleyes

    Hi guys its Julie here I also stopped smoking but its 45 days ago. I stopped smoking after 7 years.It is a very difficult process for me to quit smoking but I have strong will to overcome quitting.Now the position is this when I feel an urge of smoking, I start to chew a chewingum , sweet or toffee. At the same time my father also helps me and try to involve me in different works or discussion.This relieves me up to some extent . Any how, up till now I am feeling strong in my commitment of quit smoking. Just need your moral support and help and I will overcome this habit.

    thanks.

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