(Some) Toxic Smokers!!!


Why (some) smokers sometimes are negative towards people who want to stop?

I am still just preparing...just waiting for my gp to prepare my champix prescription...but I am so excited.

However, I have not been able to contain my happy anticipation of becoming healthier and more energetic (not trying t be a smart a**, just taking about it!!).

I have noticed that some smokers (even my mum) took the news in a negative way...why is that?I have known people who have stopped and my reaction always was:"how did you do it?" or "I wish I could"....

Instead I have noticed that non smokers have been more supportive, not reacting with the usual "just stop, big deal"!

Why is that? Are roles reversing?Is anybody else encoutering this kind of behaviour?



9 Replies

  • you are in a way becoming the enemy to them. :) They've probably tried to quit.. perhaps more than once, but the worst thing for them is they are seeing the 'smokers circle' diminishing.. and you are leaving them in a way..its selfish on their part, but you gotta make this break.. can't be a mindless slave to the addiction for life.

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    Hi I must admit that I didnt have to think about the reaction from different people as I am what someone called me on this site at the beggining of my quit as an accidental quitter as I just stopped Xmas Eve cause I got a cold and didnt want to get the bad cough that was going round

    What I also think is that as when I was smoking a lot of friends etc would talk about quitting but actually never did so maybe they are waiting to see if you quit, also maybe they also know they should quit but havent enough motivation yet to do it we are all smokers till we stop and even then for a while we have to be very strong not to become smokers again take each day as it comes and sometimes even hours its not easy but ultimately the best thing you will do for you health and happiness

    MMMMMMMMMMMMMM you smell nice, bet you havent heard that for a along time LOL xxx

    Sorry for rambling

  • Hi Zai

    Firstly well done on you decision to quit that is a big step in itself.

    I think sometimes smokers can be negative about quitting because they can be envyous that you are quitting. When I was a smoker and others were quitting I used to act as though it didn't bother me but deep down I used to think "I wish I coulld do that".

    Non-smokers, well yes I do find these people supportive although they do not always understand what you are going through - syptoms of quitting, etc. as they have never smoked.

    Ex smokers well sometimes these are the best support and other times they can get on your nerves. Ex-smokers on this site a very helpful and supportive but I know some ex-smokers who just contstantly preach all day long about smokers and that is just so annoying.

    Sorry for rambling - good luck with your quit and keep posting


  • Hi Zai :D

    I think that the reason smokers are so negative towards people that stop smoking if fairly simple in some ways

    1 They feel threatened as we leave their ranks they are to a large degree in a minorty nowadays and society is looking down on them now

    2 They could well be jealous and desperately want to quit themselves but maybe as yet they haven't succeeded or maybe they're too scared to try as yet

    Love and Hugs

    Marg xx

  • Generally people dont like change - they are threatened by it. Also as someone who wants to quit smoking myself, its on some levels scary to quit as a lot of people are your 'smoking partners' - it can be a very social thing, somethig you have in common, so its just maybe a fear in some way that they will lose their smoking buddy

    when i told one person, she actually laughed out loud as if to say 'yeah right cass'.

    this actually eggs me on as I know that I will!!


  • Hi there..

    I do agree with the above points..I think I am going to have to stop seeing my smokers friends while a quit at least for a while..otherwise it will be too hard!

    I am sad about that because almost ALL my friends are smokers and I think relapsing may be too tempting if I do.


  • Hi Whodatgirl:)

    Well done deciding to stop smoking a huge decision but one you'll never regret

    Below is my standard welcome and advice post which I try and give all new members

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathising with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    This link is good for the psychological part of quittinghttp://whyquit.com/whyquit/A_Symptoms.html

    Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here


    Marg xx

  • I have never understood this attitude, because I never said that to anyone when I was a smoker and in fairness no smoker has ever said it to me when I gave up. Maybe these people want to give up but do not have the will power? I am the first to admit everyone were very supportive when I gave up (smokers and non smokers) and the only person was a non smoker who said I would never do it (oh don’t some people drive you crazy!!)

    Well done Kai, you are doing really well.

  • when I see someone who is quitting I have always been jealous

    maybe thats the reason smokers dont like x-smokers

    always wanted it to be me quitting but could never do it

    untill now:)

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