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Day 19 - is it just me or is it getting harder???

Hey folks,

Im on day 19 everything was great at the start doing so well very few cravings full of willpower, you would think now nearly three weeks in it would be getting slightly easier, i find it a little harder past few days especially today, feel like im mourning cigarettes or something ... that probably sounds ridiculous but i feel like somethings missing and dont get me wrong i do not want to smoke again, im seeing the health benefits already, i can actually breathe now and amazing how much more moneys in my purse but i just cant help feeling miserable... lol i just thought at this stage i wouldnt be hitting such a big downer ... has anyone else felt like this and got through it or am i just weird lol

Elaine xx

Hope all you lovely folks are doing real well and arent having strange rambling thoughts like me lol

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Hey Elaine..... no worries, okay...... what you are feeling is a normal part of a quit....... have you read about the terrible 3's? Maybe search for it on this site... plenty of threads talk about it. I also think there is an actual physical/chemical reason for it...... or maybe it's just nico demon screaming really loudly one more time........ whatever the reason, just know that it will get back to being 'easy' soon enough! Just stay strong!

Quitting smoking for many is a bit like mourning....... for so long we believed the fags were our friends..... they were always there when we 'needed' them...... in fact we did need them.... to feed our addiction. So don't mourn too long, okay ;)


Hi Elaine Yes you are mourning, you have lost your little friend who was with you day and night and comforted you when you were down, but it was also killing you, its time to bury it now and move on.

Things will only get better but you must stay strong and beat this grief.

You've done really well to get this far and you must feel really proud, have a read around this site and you will realise this happens to us all


Hi Elaine

You are not alone, we are all going through this and know exactly how you feel. I keep getting empty moments, but when I really think about it these mainly occur when I would have had a cig, so I try to put it down to breaking the habit.

This site is great for support and it is good to know that you are not alone.

Well done on getting so far, almost 3 weeks which will quickly turn into a month.

Stay strong.....x


Ok, Ive read about the 3's thing. Question is...... is that the whole 3 month? I've had some strange up and downs. First week was tough and sucked. second week not so bad, third week not bad not great week 4 and 5 a breeze, on start of third month right now and I've been on a roller coaster since week 5ish. I'm a grown man and have not cried in freakin years and I swear I'm on the verge of it at least once a day. Add that to make angry moods, then occasional great mood for no reason and if I wasn't a man I'd think I was pregnant LOL. One reason I have not been posting is cause of my mood swings.


Hi Elaine :)

Well done 10 days is great keep going

It is normal to feel as you do just now almost as you say like you're mourning/missing something but after all the fags were a huge part of our lives and suddenly they're not there any more but it passes Promise

Below is my standard welcome and advice post which I try and give all new members

Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathising with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them

Here are 2 I found very good to start you off and Read read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

This link is good for the psychological part of quitting

Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here OK


Marg xxx


Hello Elaine

I'm in week 3, as well -- a few days behind you. I think most of us see that this is a bit of a mourning process, so that is not strange at all. But, it is mourning something that was mostly crap, anyway. I think it's ok to mourn a bit (the part of smoking that you liked), but remember that, for the most part, it is/was an evil nasty bstrd! I think the thing about this point in the quit is that it is easy to forget the bad things. For our own survivial, our minds focus on good memories and very quick leaves the bad behind. Remind yourself often!!



Hey Bella, Lorna, Caroline, Thomas, Marg and Jb

Thanks folks for putting a bit of perspective on my downer.

Think at the start its all so new and your so excited at being off that after a few weeks you do start to forget why you went off and suddenly the devil comes back to tempt, i suppose i should really reaffirm every day why i stopped and not let myself get to the point where i couldnt remember.

Anyways ive kicked myself up my own arse and have got a grip, i think its a combination of mourning something that as you rightly say was killing me but that has been with me for so long and finding something to do in the abundance of free time i have now compared to when i was standing outside come hail rain or shine with the black reek flying outta me lol (Never smoked inside the house thank god or there would be even more habits to break)

Thanks for all taking the time to reply to my wee depressive rant, really appreciate it folks.

Back on the straight and narrow again for the meantime lol

Elaine xx


Hi Elaine

How are you today my love? I thought day 2 - 10 were bloody hard then I felt so much better and thought I had 'broken its back' but hell it has been hard over the last couple of days especially 1st thing in the morning craving for the ciggie.

I have decided to stop counting days and head for calander months, I am purely aiming for the 13th November to get the 1 month in, why don't you join me my lovely. Bring it on.

xx Christine


Hey Christine hun how are you today?

I feel like a nervous wreck today actually started to cry in the corner shop when in to buy a bottle of water had to make a swift exit before anyone saw me lol Im starting a new job tomorrow and im pretty scared about it and obviously before i would have been reeking away to (in my head) settle my nerves (feed my addiction) but the new job was the reason why i wanted to quit amongst the rest of reasons but finding it so hard past few days i dont want to smoke i just feel like im empty and its horrible but i know if i dig my heels in it will pass most of my family do not and never have smoked so they dont understand thats why im so glad this forum is here so i dont feel so alone with my thoughts on this lol

hark at me

Aye i think your right, wel both aim for 13 November and give ourselves a big pat when we get there!!!

Elaine xx


I'm ok today, I'm on holiday (finishing off the week-end) and I'm trying to keep myself busy. Off to the gym later as I'm becoming lardy and it may help with my mood! Another week and we will be offical 1 monthers!!

How did your new job go??


Well, just for a change........... I'm finding week 3 (so far, touch wood) easier than horrible hateful never go back there week 2. I know we're all different in how the cravings/urges come and go and whilst I've read about the horrible '3's' I've not had them. I think my 'horribles' are '2'. 2nd day, 2nd week. I refuse however, to have a horrible 2nd month.

My sense of smell is improving as is my taste. Not sure what my lungs think they are up to. I'm not having the expected coughing/clearing of debris etc. However, I am needing to breathe in very deeply every now and then, in fact more every now as opposed to then. 6, 7 or 8 times an hour in fact. It's like a yawn but more of a deep breath. Very odd, not painful but just strange. I'm seeing my NHS smoke nurse on Thurs so will ask her about it.

Hi Bob, hang in there, your doing great. How is it hurting? As for a drink! Yes please :) *Cheers*



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