Forever and ever?

Does anyone else think the idea of having to constantly remind oneself of "not smoking today forever" depressing?

For me 4 months on, the thoughts are getting seldom but still vary in intensity from low to high - some akin to hunger pangs (I fancy a slice of that cake feeling) or others akin to the feeling you get when you miss a lover in the early onset of a passionate affair...almost physical/painful. They are maneageable, I take each in my stride and deal with them as they come but ...:

I just find the prospect of having to go through that for years depressing. Do not get me wrong, I am still working through some trigger situations and feel confident that this is the time I quit for good but the idea of having to remind myself for years and years to come feels really depressing.

Having an off day...

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  • Does anyone else think the idea of having to constantly remind oneself of "not smoking today forever" depressing?

    For me 4 months on, the thoughts are getting seldom but still vary in intensity from low to high - some akin to hunger pangs (I fancy a slice of that cake feeling) or others akin to the feeling you get when you miss a lover in the early onset of a passionate affair...almost physical/painful. They are maneageable, I take each in my stride and deal with them as they come but ...:

    I just find the prospect of having to go through that for years depressing. Do not get me wrong, I am still working through some trigger situations and feel confident that this is the time I quit for good but the idea of having to remind myself for years and years to come feels really depressing.

    Having an off day...

    I can't say I've ever thought of reminding myself I can't smoke forever. Never looked that far ahead just taken one day at a time. What I do find depressing though are the ads for stopping smoking on tv. I have got to the point now of either going to do something or turning to another channel for a few minutes as I truly think they could have a reverse effect on me and I don't want that. Yes, I have felt like a cig, especially when I've been down in the dumps but I've never gone out to buy any and the feeling soon passed.

    Try not to think ahead Catmagpie, just take one day at a time. All the best and I hope your day gets better. Jan x

  • Hey Jan

    Hmmm - this is my issue - the day at a time thing and the prospect of having those day at a time thing ahead for all eternity.

    Yes- I guess I am just having one of those days...

    How are things with you?

    x

  • This is strange, cos I was was just wondering the other day, "When will I be able to go a WHOLE DAY, without even thinking about cigarettes?"

    And the answer is NEVER, so long as hubby, son, daughter, workmates and friends are still smoking. :(

    Doesn't mean I want one, though; and wouldn't it be nice if they just banned the damn things and made it illegal to even talk about them ?;):p

  • ....and wouldn't it be nice if they just banned the damn things and made it illegal to even talk about them ?;):p

    what goes around comes around....

    snuff sales are on the increase.. :(

    one day smoking won't exist but that doesn't mean tobacco consumption will cease.

    in a few generations kids won't believe photos of people stuffing a tube of dried leaves in their mouth and lighting it....

  • Having an off day...

    So long as it isnt a day off its ok lol -

    im not finding it depressing - well not today anyway - and i try not to think tooo long term, funny thing is that although i have had drunken puffs, it doesnt make me long for one, no craves just a thought that pops into my head then pops out again. I know ive said before (yawn) my head is in the right place (well may be a bit wobbly later after helping Jan celebrate) :D

  • Hey Jan

    Hmmm - this is my issue - the day at a time thing and the prospect of having those day at a time thing ahead for all eternity.

    Yes- I guess I am just having one of those days...

    How are things with you?

    x

    Hi Catmagpie - I'm fine at the moment but (I may have posted this in another thread - not sure) had a dodgy weekend feeling down but got through it with the help of grandkids and my mum, bless them.

  • I quit for a year (once) and the feeling did eventually go before the year was up. I only started smoking again because i got drunk and stoopid :rolleyes:

    I didn't spend a year fancying a smoke or, trust me, i would have smoked long before i got to a year :o

  • Really glad to hear that wfairy cos been having a bit of a dip in my quit for a few days. Dont know what thats all about cos it will be 5 momths friday. This is the time i started to slip last year stupid or what. Linda xxx

  • That's too bad Linda but you know this too shall pass! Breathe through it, go to your happy place! ;)

  • Hi all

    Really glad to hear that wfairy cos been having a bit of a dip in my quit for a few days. Dont know what thats all about cos it will be 5 momths friday. This is the time i started to slip last year stupid or what. Linda xxx

    Linda, hold on and be strong! You are doing great. I believe that strange feeling has to do with the approaching time you started to slip the last time. I had that also. My longest time before now was 3,5 weeks. When I approached that on the second time....It was much more difficult than the previous week, because I guess I got anxious that I will not be able to pass that point. Fact is: everything is really in our heads.

    As for the forever and ever thing: I have noticed lately that when I occupy my head with other things, as I usually do (work, hobbies etc.), the thought of having a cigarette once in a week or so, is coming and leaving very fast. But, when I start to think about it, not about smoking, but about not smoking...strangely a cig appears very appealing... It seems like when someone says: "don't think about a piece of cake", you cannot "don't think about it" without ..."thinking about it". Don't know if that makes any sense:rolleyes::confused::o

    :)

  • Fact is: everything is really in our heads.

    This could not be more true. A few weeks ago, I was having an awful time with my quit. I was depressed because it had been 4 months, and I still wanted to smoke. I knew in the back of my mind, that I was going to fail it was only a matter of time. I'm not sure what kept me from smoking, but a few days later I met up with my brother who is basically a chain smoker. He absolutely reeked of smoke, and I haven't wanted one since. That was 3 weeks ago tomorrow, I went from wanting a cig all the time to not wanting one at all just like that. That proved to me that at this point it really is just in our heads, you just have to be strong enough to get through the tough times.

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