Saw a piece on the BBC today regarding some research into people that quit smoking in groups, i.e with colleagues, friends etc are much more likely to succeed. Not sure whether it translates as well 'online' as much as the real world but the many 'teams' on here suggest theres a definate benefit of having like minded people going through the same things you are.
The article is here news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/... thought it was worth sharing with the masses for discussion or information purposes, maybe it might inspire some lurkers to consider it.
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How odd - i was thinking about the 'teams' today and was gonna post but life took over, anyway seems that the teams are not so strong on here - i think all the NYQ's have gone - from this forum at least - and call outs from others have not been swamped with replies either.
Was it Kay saying earlier that all her family 'quit buddies' had started again??
Not saying everyone is smoking again - just moving on i guess
jojo
I have been quit for 4 Months, 3 Weeks, 1 Day, 22 hours, 23 minutes and 4 seconds (143 days). I have saved £652.01 by not smoking 2,878 cigarettes. I have saved 1 Week, 2 Days, 23 hours and 50 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 01/01/2008 00:05
I'm afraid to say in my experience group quits ie workplaces etc dont work. 5 people where i work quit at the same time last year and as soon as one person gives up 'giving up' everyone else followed suit. I was the last person in the group to pick up the fags again. I think that quitting is a very personal thing, that you can only do yourself. Everyone has very personal reasons for smoking and for giving up, some people dont like to share those reasons with others. One person (who really isnt ready to stop) will find it hard and keep going on about it and then everyone else will lost heart and find it really hard (even if it is going alright!) and before you know it more people have lapsed. Also the other thing that i found hard was not being in that little group in the corner having a ciggy and you not being in that little group with them, somehow it feels as though you have been left out:(. Strange i know, but i'm sure you know what i'm talking about. Just a note about the little group in the corner smoking, of which my hubby is part of- i still go over there (i call it 'sad little smoking corner') but without the fag and its not as bad as i thought it would be
Do you not feel many have supported you on here then? Sorry if that is the case. Maybe this forum goes thru 'lulls' where not many people post? I don't know.
Hope you're doing ok though. One month is a fairly good milestone. I recently did 50 days so thats cool!
The MayDay Quittersstarted with four , two still posting, one has family over. one not heard from for a while.
not much support from other quitters, just the odd few,
Thanks to all that did.
I think here, if your face fits you get loads of help.
others are just left to post to themself,
lucky if someone bothers to reply.:mad:
I would'nt like to offend anyone,sorry if i have.
as new quitters we've managed nearly one month
of which we are very proud.
Hey FW sorry u feel that way - well done on your month - fraid i cant offer as much advice as the others (i havent researched or read ANYTHING) so i tend not to go back to the early quitters pages, but i thought you had fitted right in with everyone else Keep it up
Hey Linda well done - fraid ive done about 10 puffs (sorry rik was out again this w/e)
i was only answering the question on this thread. i am a genuine quitter and i was only staiting what i found with me. i never asked to be jumped on by so many people here. I never posted in bold wrighting.
Fairy, it wont be intentional, as mentioned already, some posters do only stick to certain sections of the board, or may only feel qualified sometimes to respond to certain posts, like if people are on different quit methods etc.
KKKKKKKK k - i have come to a mmmm not decision but maybe realisation..... I am a smoker, not a non or an ex a smoker - BUT b4 you all jump on me - i am choosing not to smoke at the moment ( well apart from the drunken puffs and it is only when waist deep on vodka and redbull) and i know this isnt part of this thread but cant be arsed to make a new one - but that is how i feel, i hope it will change one day and you should all understand where i am coming from (!) it doesnt bother me i am not gonna start again but i really believe that is how best to describe ME, off to fix my dragon now ttfn mwah
You do what you gotta do jojo. So you had the odd puff, it could've been worse. You could have had a million puffs by now so lets stick two fingers up at the ten or so puffs you've had since you quit.
As for what to call yourself, thats neither here nor there. Too much emphasise is put on what we should call ourselves but you know what? Sod it. We are all human so lets leave it at that!
Feeling kinda envious of your drags actually. Couldn't you have saved one for me?!
You do what you gotta do jojo. So you had the odd puff, it could've been worse. You could have had a million puffs by now so lets stick two fingers up at the ten or so puffs you've had since you quit.
As for what to call yourself, thats neither here nor there. Too much emphasise is put on what we should call ourselves but you know what? Sod it. We are all human so lets leave it at that!
Feeling kinda envious of your drags actually. Couldn't you have saved one for me?!
You do what you gotta do jojo. So you had the odd puff, it could've been worse. You could have had a million puffs by now so lets stick two fingers up at the ten or so puffs you've had since you quit.
As for what to call yourself, thats neither here nor there. Too much emphasise is put on what we should call ourselves but you know what? Sod it. We are all human so lets leave it at that!
Feeling kinda envious of your drags actually. Couldn't you have saved one for me?!
lol knew you'd understand - to be honest had a puff when sober-ish and bloody horid its only when ur really drunk that it tastes like nectar - sorry guys but its true - however still dont want to have a whole one
I've been thinking about how fags taste quite a bit lately. I kinda want one but to smoke one now would be stupid. The thought of all that horrid smoke going into my lungs is very off putting for me and is just about the only thing holding me back at the mo tbh. Not really bothered if I smoke or not actually. But there must be a lil part of me that truly doesn't want to smoke 'cos I haven't put one to my lips yet.
I've been thinking about how fags taste quite a bit lately. I kinda want one but to smoke one now would be stupid. The thought of all that horrid smoke going into my lungs is very off putting for me and is just about the only thing holding me back at the mo tbh. Not really bothered if I smoke or not actually. But there must be a lil part of me that truly doesn't want to smoke 'cos I haven't put one to my lips yet.
I must admit I have been feeling the same lately. Especially over the weekend which was extremely stressful for me. Buuuut I never went and bought any and there were none at home that I could pinch.
Really Jan? I wonder what makes us feel like this when we have gone a fair while without any cigs? Hell, you've gone longer than me. I wish I knew the answer. Mind, don't we all. It would be far easier to stop smoking if we knew exactly what we were fighting.
Well done for not succumbing though Jan. We can't ever allow ourselves to think just one cigarette is ok (sorry, no ref to jojo there). I know if I smoke just one, I will be as good as hooked again. Some (like jojo lol) can get away with the odd puff but I know I won't. Which begs the question, why would I want to have the odd ciggie knowing what they do to me? arrghhh Its mad isn't it?!
Actually, it is 'that' time of the month John lol I'm thinking it does have something to do with it. I always get like this at 'that' time of the month but its not always as bad as this.
You know what John? You're a bad influence on me! You lower the tone and when you do that I go along with it! lol You bad! You a bad man! Mad bad man, that is. You've heard of Dangerous Brian, well, here I present you with Dangerous John *guffaws a bit* lol
Hands up those who think John is the instigator of 'nortie' posts? *sticks hand up in the air*
:D
Just messing wi' ya Johnny. Hey, you've put a smile on my face and proved my family all wrong that it is an impossible feat!!! haha
Off to walk my dog. Can't be arsed but she ain't been out yet. Then shopping. Then b/f's then home! Oh life is sooooooooooo exciting!!!
When FW first started posting, I did reply to her a couple of times as did many others but she totally ignored anyones posts, responding to or acknowledging noone except the people in her 'team' .... therefore I stopped replying to her for the exact reasons she accuses everyone else of!!! Maybe that was done on purpose to give herself ammo for this post :confused: After all we really have no idea who is for real and who isn't anymore.
Saying that, I did reply to Bobross yesterday as did others so FW either you are purposely trying to stir things up for your own reasons or you just haven't taken notice of the replies you actually do/did get.
This forum has just gone through a major upheaval due to people posting in the manner FW just has and I for one will not be drawn into another 'battle', she can get on with it without my input from here on in.
Off to sulk now cos I have posted before and NOONE AT ALL has answered, blimmin ignoramuses :eek:
I really can't be arsed with all this again, and ultimately, although we do get support from this forum a quit is essentially a personal thing and a path we essentially travel alone, the support on here is brilliant but its the way WE approach our quit that determines its success or otherwise.
I have now said sorry for not THANKING everyone who replied to any of my posts. Thank you to you and Johntkd for pointing out how ungreatful i am.
I made the comments bold to highlight something which i was responding too.
I am sure you are a genuine quitter.
You are sadly mistaken if you claim this is what has happened to you.
As catwoman said in her post, many people did respond to your posts / threads. YOU didnt really acknowledge most people, only certain ones. That is entirely up to you and we don't expect a response to all posts but the fact that You chose to behave that way, don't blame others.
New people read this forum and your posts here could put people off, especially as your posts are untrue.
The reason so many answered is because your posts was unfair and basically .....lies.
Perhaps because this is the way you behave on the forum, you feel we are all like that. Not the case fairywings.
I would suggest you look over your posts and threads etc. again.
The phrase under your name says it all "away with the fairies"..:mad:
i changed the offending item to GOD IS LIFE. want to challenge that as well.
The MayDay Quitters started with four , two still posting, one has family over. one not heard from for a while.
Guilty - I had my mom visiting from California - and really didn't want to waste precious visit time in front of the computer, since I hadn't seen her in seven months. We had a lot to celebrate together - including her 49th birthday AND mother's day AND her non-smoking child (whom she was extremely proud of).
There seems to be quite a bit of bickering on this forum - which I don't understand as everyone seems really nice. I have always felt welcome - even by those of you I haven't interacted with personally.
I run a discussion forum for an American author - and I have witnessed several flare-ups on that forum. I've found that most are due to miscommunication. It's really hard to read someone's tone through a computer screen. Sometimes things go too far - and sometimes people react emotionally instead of asking questions and being direct.
As for people not responding to posts...well...I think that happens everywhere; as soon as the nice weather comes out - people disappear. I'm sure that's true of this forum, too. I also know - from my experience running that forum - that just because not everyone is responding to a post doesn't mean that people aren't reading it and supporting you. Sometimes there are only so many ways to say "well done" and reading and replying can be time consuming.
People also get really busy - I know I sure am right now. Aside from running a forum - I am training for ballet, working in marketing, researching ancient texts and quantum physics, writing children's stories with my mom and prepping to attend the college of art and design. :eek: Phewww That doesn't leave me a lot of leisure time. I'm sure a lot of you are busy with jobs and families, too, and don't have much time to spend online.
I do check in here - but I may not reply a lot. That doesn't mean I am not wishing everyone success - cuz I AM! I'm with ya - and 28 days smoke free. To be truthful - I am so busy, I don't even think much about smoking anymore. It doesn't seem so much like it was a huge part of my life - more like a phase I went through for a couple years.
I think your spot on there Feen. Wow what a busy life you have too, ive gone all green mate, Ha ha! cant you quantum calculate us a life swap for one day? only kidding ive got a three year old here that thinks her gran is 3 too. She is keeping me very busy at the moment. And well done to you on your quit mate, you rock. xxx
Lovely to see you back and sooooooooo pleased your mums visit went well. lost my mum 10 years ago age 59 miss her loads she was my best friend They are very special people ( mums). linda xxx
Thank you for your thoughts and comments dossydo, linda & johntkd!
I couldn't agree more that moms are special - mine is also my very best friend in the world, so I understand what you mean. I am so sorry that you lost your mum so young, linda.
dossydo - sounds like the wee one keeps you hopping! Kids are awesome!
john - sunnyserpent isn't my mom (my mom smoked for two months when she was 19 and then quit) - Sunny's a good friend of mine from off the forum who has been as supportive of me as my mom has with quitting smoking. I was inspired by her - and she actually told me about this place She is doing really well - still not smoking. She and her husband have started a new business and life is really good (and hectic) for her! She will be pleased that you asked about her -
Observations have told me that there are a select few here that feel this forum it exclusively ‘theirs’ – I hate to have to be the unpopular one to tell you – but IT’S NOT.
aaah Diane, but i think you'll find it is.... AND you have to be nice to them...
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(sorry rik was out again this w/e)
