I need my bestfriend to live love an laugh

[Wanda_Pamela]

My best friend is on home dialysis an has been for 2 1/2 years. She needs a transplant but we really dont know how to go about making that happen for her. We know someone that said they would donate to her but there is always something stopping that from happening. We understand the life changes an i believe she has good intentions, but i also believe she is scared an is procrastinating. An time is of the essence for Pam.

Pam (I feel) doesnt think she will ever get a kidding an has excepted the fact that she is dieing. Which breaks my heart. She deserves to live.

What do we do. Pam does everything she is suppose to as far as her treatment goes but that is it. She has no life. She goes nowhere she does nothing. She has no energy or drive to live. Im at my end i want to help her. What do i do where do i start

[Dara3351]

Talk with her nephrologist about getting on the transplant list. There are requirements. I had to get clearance from my dentist, EKG, stress test, colonoscopy, mammogram, tissue typing, antibodies, bloodwork for HIV, Hepatitis A,B,C, Pap smear, ultrasound of abdomen, etc. I’m not sure how old she is but I would have thought her nephrologist would have given her information. I am 18 months past my transplant and am grateful a kidney was found for me. Best decision ever!

[WYOAnne NKF Ambassador]

Her nephrologist should be referring her to a transplant center and get put on the transplant list. The person that is considering giving her a kidney would be checked out thoroughly by the transplant center starting with is her blood type compatible. Then tests to make sure she is healthy enough to be a donor for your friend.

I am living well 20+ years with my transplant. Life is worth living and she deserves to have a wonderful life!

If she won't, call the nephrologist office on Monday morning and get the "ball" rolling to get her approved for transplant.

Best of luck!

[Transplant2018]

Thanks for caring so deeply about your friend. As others have wisely advised, the first step is to have your friend evaluated by a transplant center and approved for a transplant. Then you need to very widely share her need for a living donor. Don't count on the one person who offered to donate as people are often well-intentioned but when they realize everything that is involved they decide they don't want to donate. You can find lots of information about living donation and how to share her story on the NKF website.

I shared my story, found a wonderful living donor, and had a pre-emptive transplant in 2018. The very involved process is well worth the effort as I now am healthy.