Recipient and Donor Rejection.

[LillyBear09]

Hello,

I have a question in regards to the recipient and the donor. I dont know if this has ever happend before and it may seem unorthodox do to so. My question is:

Is the recipient allowed to reject the donors kidney? Meaning to say, if my donor found a matching kidney to do the swap, am I entilited to not let that donor donate? As in I do not want any part of this persons help.

I know this is highly not advisible due to the circmstances of ones health however, I would like to know if there is an option for the recipient to decline help from the donor.

Thank you.

[SisterSangre]

This is a most unusual question. In some instances like mine (I'm a living donor), I knew the person I was donating to. But if the donor is not known, you will not have their information as they would be anonymous.

If your question is in reference to someone you know, then it is certainly your choice. However, you may want to speak to your transplant team first about this to see if rejecting someone's kidney could affect your ability/opportunity to secure another one. Just my thoughts.

[DSKdonor NKF Ambassador in reply to SisterSangre]

Hello. I think the way I'm understanding your question is that you have a donor but they aren't a match for you so you've either entered the paired donation program or perhaps are using the NKR (National Kidney Registry's) Voucher program. If my understanding is correct so far, the next piece is that you know the donor who COULD be a match for you, but you aren't interested in receiving their help - even if it could mean getting you a transplant.

Very interesting situation as I can relate - if you're not a "FAN" of the potential donor and they help you out, there could be all kinds of emotional issues going forward. I think this is a perfect situation to discuss with the Transplant Social Worker on the team.

Wishing you the best!

-donor debi

[LillyBear09 in reply to DSKdonor]

Its most definitely the second one. I do not want to bear any emotional issues on my end and have any ties with this person. And for me it is a struggle between saving my life and having this “tie” to that person thinking I will have a part of them forever. It is defiantly an emotional aspect. I think talking to my social worker is a good idea. Thank you

[SophieSkye]

Hi, I can’t ever contemplate refusing or declining a potential kidney donation. I don’t know your circumstances and you’ll have your personal reasons as to why you’ve put this question on here. You really need to speak with your renal coordinator in the first instance is my only advice. I donated to my son just over a year ago to save his life. Sorry. Maybe I’m just not understanding your question. Good luck in your renal journey.