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[Blessed45]

Hello everyone ,

I am happy to have found this group

My dad started having kidney dialysis last year, he is 70 year old

We both are in Different countries and he does delay going for his session and sometimes misses it

How can I get him to comply and go for his session regularly

[KidneyCoach NKF Ambassador]

Short answer.....you cant. He must choose for himself. Does he really want to continue dialysis? Is he afraid? Maybe he needs more social support? Does he have anyone he can talk to that is close by, like a minister, counselor, friend? Do you communicate by phone, emails, letters through regular mail often? All of these things can be very beneficial on his kidney journey. No amount of begging, coercion, guilt can force someone into dialysis ìf it's not truly wanted. It's scary. It's tough. It's demanding and can be overwhelming and depressing. It takes time to grieve the old life and accept the new. Has he always missed a treatment here and there or is this new?

Definitely reach out. Ask the hard questions, without harshness or judgment over his answers.

I wish you both well. Please keep us updated. This is not an easy task as a loved one. Blessings

[Blessed45 in reply to KidneyCoach]

Thank you so much for your advice Yes I think he is alway afraid of the sessions We chat on video calls regularly

I need to work on his support group

[Sophiebun11]

Hi and welcome!

Compliance is so important with any illness, particularly so with getting his dialysis.

Have you been able to speak to his dialysis care team for suggestions?

Do you feel he may be depressed and not wanting to bother? Some therapy or group support from other dialysis patients may be helpful. That may be available where he goes for his dialysis.

Best of luck, your father is lucky to have you on his side.

[Blessed45]

Thank you so much I would look into speaking with the dialysis team

[lowraind]

Does he need additional support, nearer to home, such as a visiting nurse or transportation service?

[Blessed45]

Not at the moment thank you