Not sure what I’m really asking here but I guess just hoping others might have been through similar and can offer some reassurance.
Little boy is 20 months old. He’s very energetic, funny and has lots of character. I’ve always felt he’s bright but very strong-willed. He’s never been a good sleeper and refused to drink from a bottle when he was a baby which I found really challenging.
Now he’s a toddler, I’m just finding his behaviour really hard work. He’s had a tough time lately with teething but I’ve no idea whether he’s difficult because he’s in pain or whether this is just his personality but I’m genuinely finding it hard to enjoy spending any time with him at the moment.
He seems to cry at everything unless he’s getting his own way, tantrums having his nappy changed, getting dressed, putting shoes/socks on, when his toys don’t do exactly as he wants...At meal times he just won’t eat his food even though it’s stuff I know he likes. I’ve had to just walk out of the room while he’s eating because if I’m there he’ll just constantly point at things he wants (usually books but if I’ve managed to hide all the books he’ll find something else to distract him).
He goes to a couple of groups which he’s been doing since he was younger and I’m now starting to feel I don’t want to do them any more because he just runs around, not really participating and kicks off if I stop him. It’s things he really enjoys (music and gymnastics) and he does love some aspects of the classes.
I know he’s quite young to be expected to sit down and participate in an class activity but he just always seems to be the worst one there for just running off and doing his own thjng. When he does join in, he’s really good at it and can do all the actions to the songs better than the older kids but I feel bad that the other children are sitting down and listening and they just see him getting to run around. I worry I’m being judged by other parents for letting him do it even though I know this probably isn’t the case!
He goes to nursery 3 days a week. He gets on great there and they have no concerns about his behaviour. I know some kids meltdown when they get home from childcare but he’s like that all day when I have him at home. Today he refused his porridge for breakfast, ate a few cornflakes only when his dad spooned then into his mouth and has just turned down his lunch. At nursery he eats 3 meals plus snacks 🤷🏻♀️
I feel like it’s all just normal toddler behaviour and I just need to cope better with it but just wanted to hear from anyone else who has/had similar worries. Just feeling like a rubbish mum as I am just sitting here in tears wishing I was at work instead of enjoying the time I chose to spend with my little boy 😔