Alll a bit tmi but I had my first baby two days ago and a substantial second degree tear - she said it wasn't technically third degree because membranes are intact. Most of the stitches are internal, but the swelling is so bad that when the midwife came today I swear she looked grossed out! Anyway I guess I can deal with the pain, but my question is whether anyone else has found such trouble controlling bladder. I can't even feel the urge and just notice wetness when I get up from a chair or bed. Midwife just said do the exercises but I'm a bit worried it'll take weeks to even dare leave the house. Is it just the swelling that's making it so hard?