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[Jackjosh]

hellie I've been dealing with alot that is why I have not been on here. My marriage is falling apart. I've been contemplating a divorce but the only thing that keeps me staying is so everything ain't pushed off on my oldest daughter and money cause he's the only one who works. Idk what to do anymore I don't even know if I still love him. That's how bad it got. I'm scared I can't pay for me n my kids on our own idk what to do

[hopeandgrace]

So sorry to hear! No advice to offer, but lifting up a prayer for you now 🙏🏼❤️

[Sandydemop]

hi, wishing you well.

[bxrmom]

I'm sorry to hear this Jackjosh Have you guys tried couples counseling? My thoughts are with you as you go through this. Vent away when you need to, we are here for you.

[BFDawg in reply to bxrmom]

My reply doesn’t take into consideration all your personal variables to consider, and not knowing how far you progressed in MS. It’s an emotional thing to think through, but not on a short timetable. May want to get a free private consult with a lawyer. Key points to consider are your financial support, medical coverage, and friend/community support; ensuring all that before you make a decision or can’t get around one day and do very much on your own. Take care of yourself.

[Jackjosh in reply to BFDawg]

when I had my youngest daughter it made me worse. Pregnancy did me no justice buy ever since I had his daughter he's been different like his needs come first basically to him screw what we need. Along as he gots his weed and methadone n I'm so done. The feelings I've been having are hatred basically cause the way he acts. He's never happy and I'm tired of it. If he wants to go he can go but I feel stuck I can't just leave or anything I can't drive or walk far do I feel stuck

[goatgal]

Most communities have resources to help people who are struggling. If your husband is on methadone, you might start with services for addicts and those addicted; call them and ask for contacts and resources to help the families of those addicted. If you are a member of a church community, talk to a pastor. Pastors often have a vast knowledge of what help is available to those in peril or great need. I hold you in my heart.

[Jackjosh in reply to goatgal]

hes on methadone cause of opioid

[MarkUpnorth]

I've pushed thru the rough times. It was hard. But having done so many years later, I couldn't imagine life any other way. Sometimes you have to live with hell, to get to heaven. Still with my life partner, couldn't want it any other way. We are both happy. But yes, for years it was hell.

My son is in a relationship where her whole side of the family is in a convoluted state. Mental illness,..many, many marriages. Kids from this and that. No one benefits. The mess just keeps on. It may be worth "figuring things out"? It may take years as it did with me.

[Robsmom]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I can't offer any advice but you should talk to someone for your own peace of mind. There are lots resources out there, the National MS Society also offers many types of assistance for people with MS. Prayers, take care of yourself and your children first.

[mrsmike9]

A lot of good advice here. Start doing some research. Find an agency where the topic of meth is known. They can help with true knowledge on this. However your husband will have to want to change. Only he knows. I will pray for your family.

[BlanketTime1]

i'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through. just wanted to let you know you'll be in my thoughts. i will say depending on where you live there are resources for a single woman with kids beyond alimony and child support.

stay strong🤗

[stepsforNeeC]

At a time like this, no easy answers for matters of the heart! You know best, health and safety are priority for everyone. If family can be a resource, now might be a good time to put your support circle in place. Check -in with the Family Resources Centers in your area, even the National MS if need be. I'll be praying for you and your family. Blessings Be Upon You

[twooldcrows]

i am so sorry for this to be happening ......defently get help with his additions for they will know how to help you ....everyone has given you some great places to contact ....do now ...get it all started before you are lost without anything ....love and prayers for all of your family ...may god be with you thru all of this ...bless you ....