Has dating become the elephant in the room? Am I the only one? I'll always bring it up...over and over! Geez! I just refuse to believe that any of us are that darn undesirable.
So, I propose, us MSers would benefit from our own dating site. Maybe i'm being impatient, again. Still, I'm just saying. 😁
Kj9681 it's MSFIGHTER again. Luckily I have been married to the same man for almost 30 years. And in the past 4 years that I've been dealing with progressive MS he has shown no sign of even thinking about wanting out of this mess with me. I think if I was single it would be a totally different ball game. I believe that your post about having a dating site for people with Ms only has many merits. It might be something that you could open up to a little bit broader base of not only people with MS, but perhaps all people with neurological issues and the care givers who help people with similar problems before period
It's just a simple fact KJ fat not all people are able to be good caregivers. Or to stay put in a relationship that your partner changes and falls apart in many areas right before your eyes. So having a dating site that allows people to find someone to give them support, kind of like our chat room here, is a wonderful idea. As a female the only problem I could see is that sometimes I need my physically strong husband to assist me when I get stuck, stay in the tub and can't get out or when I've done too much and simply collapse and can"t get up. If two people with Ms where in a relationship would they be strong enough to help each other out of jams like that? I guess you could say it's a catch-22. That when you date and get a relationships with people with the same issues you understand one another better but can you be there for one another when needed to? KJ I believe this post will also draw a lot input from our friends and members. It should be very interesting too hear what everyone has to say on the subject! Way to go. We love when members put in posts that generate conversations and gives people involved!
That's a lot to, also, ponder. All we can do is live. Patience!
Think that is a good idea for the singles. You could ask on here for singles to be pen pals!
I suppose I could, Angie. I'm learning however, that, MS is a group similar to church...seems like everyone is married.
All the best kj, I hope and pray that there is someone out there for you and your family. Blessings
^thanks
I like what others have said here, Kj9681. MSFighter shared some really good points, but in life, there really is no certainty. My husband of 38yrs is my rock and my cheerleader. He's pushed me to do things I've felt I couldn't do. But he's an adventurer and has done some daring things. I can't tell you how many times I have prayed (I admit sometimes selfishly) that he would come home to me safe and sound. What would we do if both of us needed care at the same time? But isn't that life? I look at my neighbors, married for over 60yrs, both nearing 90, and both using walkers. I also have heard of people marrying someone they love despite one of them having MS. And I personally have two friends with MS whose spouses walked out on them because their spouses couldn't handle their MS.
I would be lost and lonely without my husband and the companionship we share. Who knows how long we have together (I've got dibs on going first!), but every day is a gift and I can't think of anyone I'd rather spend it with.
So I understand your desire. I wish I knew how or where to direct you. But my prayer is that you will find someone of your own-someone who loves and accepts you as you are-someone you can love and care for as they love and care for you.💕
What kind words. I pray for the same. Thank you.
Tutu,
I agree with you completely. My wife of 36 years has given me incredible support and understanding while we have shared activities and events that have inspired us ever since we first met. In each of our lives we meet people and make friends. Kj9681, please hold onto the friends you have, continue to make friends, and one day you may find that person who loves you and you love.
Hey Kj9681 your still young yet. 
Don't rush it. I have been married 2xs neither worked. Then l just put all my effort into my girls. I didn't meet my guy til l was 48 and neither one of us want to get married. But he chose to stay by my side while l was being dx'ed
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