my dad has been in hospital for nearly 3 weeks now , chest infections, trouble swallowing, had a call yesterday , dr said he doesn’t want any more treatment or feed.
he still knows his own mind, just has trouble talking
he has had enough , my mum is so confused and upset as am I and the rest of the family
luckily we can still visit the hospital, even though my mum shouldn’t go as she is high risk , but how can she not when they have been married for 61 years
i think it will be a case of keeping him comfortable , don’t want to lose him , but he says he has no quality of life
he still has a smile for us though
hate this disease
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Hello Elaine, I'm so sorry for you all. This dreadful condition is a beast at the best of times but in the current situation it seems even worse. I'm glad your dad has a smile for you, he will know how much you have cared for him and how much you love him, he is very lucky to have you and your mum to give him such affection and warmth.
Keep strong for your mum and I hope you both stay safe in the weeks ahead.
Hi Chester I really understand your distress. We have been there with my dad. It's great that he still knows you are there for him. That is the most important thing at the moment, your love for him. I send all my love to you and your family. I also hate this disease with a passion.
Hi Elaine I am so sorry to read your post. My husband is also in hospital at the moment with infections etc. It is such a worry. As Yanno and Hellebelle have said your dad knows he is loved and in life that is the most important thing.
Hi.. I know these are hard times.. But family stands together during hard times..even if your dad complains about his quality of life it is u and the family whose love brings a smile on his face..try to tell him some random jokes..i know it will be hard for you.. But just lookout to keep him happy which i sense u already do.. Ur mother is at high risk but they must see each other..whenever they can..kindly take as much precautions as you can to protect her.. U r the bridge of their love.. U r strong , faithful and intelligent..ur mind will work under any circumstance..rest lays in the hands of God.. God bless u..
I will always wish that God looks after u and your family.
Oh how difficult for you all. Balancing wanting to keep your dad with you all, as well as understanding how it feels from his position. Did you get round to having those kinds of conversation with him when he could still fully express his feelings?
My heart goes out to you and your Mum. God bless. Diane
thinking of you. Been there with my dad last year. Hospital put in feeding tube for 10 days but my dad had enough too and on day 8 ripped it out. He is at peace now and I am glad he does not have to be here for this virus. My mum is keeping safe and distance and just this week visited his grave telling him he is better off and can be glad he is not around to see the restrictions and madness. <<<hugs>>> to you and your family
Arrh it’s so sad my dad is suffering with he’s Secretions he just can’t cough 😢he looks lost and all he does all day is try to cough it’s hard to watch em like this my mum struggles to come to terms with what’s happening still, my dad is my life like u and I don’t want to lose him it will brake me 💔 it’s also so hard to watch em suffer I try to stay happy even though I’m not it’s about them now smile when u can if he’s down try and smile which is the hardest I know sending u all the love from one daughter to another 💙💙💙
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Dad is left alone on a ward, unable to communicate and we can't accompany him and we've been told no visits allowed. HELP please
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