Yet again another month no period has shown up .

[Peanutbutterplease]

I'm not sure if I am suffering perimenopause but this is my second month where I have gone past my "usual cycle days plus extra . Kind of having my "coming up to my period symptoms " but no actual period . I mean do I just wait to see if it comes or ? If I am honest I am struggling with "becoming older and body changing just want some advice really

[moo196]

Maybe join a local menopause support group 🤔

[Rainbow2468]

I know they will say you have to wait twelve months for it to be menopause, but I'd say there is no harm in chatting to your gp, as you're having a rough time of things too. Sending safe hugs 🤗❤️

[Me-non-pause]

It sounds like you’re going through a confusing and emotional time, and it’s completely normal to feel this way. Our bodies can change in unexpected ways, especially as we approach midlife, and that shift can bring up a lot of feelings. Let’s talk through it gently.

What You Might Be Experiencing:

Changes in your cycle — like missed periods or longer cycles — are very common in perimenopause, which is the transition leading up to menopause. This phase can start as early as your late 30s to early 40s, though it varies for everyone. It can last several years, and your hormones (especially estrogen and progesterone) begin to fluctuate, causing irregular periods.

Common symptoms include:

Period irregularity (late, early, or skipped periods)

PMS-like symptoms without a period (breast tenderness, bloating, cramps)

Mood changes (anxiety, low mood, irritability)

Sleep disturbances or fatigue

Hot flashes or night sweats

Vaginal dryness or changes in libido

It makes sense that you’re feeling unsettled — your body is shifting, and it can feel like a loss of control or even a loss of identity in some ways. But this doesn’t mean you’re losing yourself — you’re evolving, and there are ways to navigate this transition with care and compassion for yourself.

What Can You Do Right Now?

Track Your Symptoms & Cycle:

Keep a journal or use a period tracker app to note your symptoms and cycle changes. This helps you understand patterns and gives useful info if you decide to see a doctor.

Give It Time — But Listen to Your Body:

If your period skips a month, it may just come late. But if you skip 3 months or more, or your symptoms become distressing, it might be a good idea to check in with a GP or gynecologist.

Lifestyle Support:

Gentle exercise (like walking or yoga) helps balance hormones and ease anxiety.

Nourishing foods rich in calcium, magnesium, and healthy fats support hormone health.

Mindfulness or relaxation practices can ease emotional ups and downs.

Hormonal or Natural Support:

Some people find relief with supplements (like magnesium, evening primrose oil, or vitamin D).

Your doctor might discuss HRT (hormone replacement therapy) or other options if symptoms become disruptive.

Emotionally Coping with Change:

Feeling sad or anxious about aging is completely valid. It’s a reminder of life’s shifts, but it’s not a loss of vitality or femininity — it’s just a new phase. You’re still you, with all your wisdom, creativity, and strength.

Try to be gentle with yourself:

Talk to friends or loved ones — you might be surprised how many people feel the same way.

Journal your feelings to process them.

Celebrate your body for all it’s carried you through, even when it’s changing in unpredictable ways.