My sister

[TinaPeveto]

My mother passed away in December of last year. And my middle sister(Tammy) knew about my mom's illness and hospitalation 2 weeks prior to her letting me know she was hospitalize. I found out 2 days before my mom died. I never made it to the hospital because my sister(Tammy)never told me what hospital she was at. During those 2 weeks my middle sister(Tammy) came and took my oldest sister Christy who has Downs Syndrome to her house and when I asked many many times where Christy was Tammy said my mom's will left Christy to her friend. Now hoping I could trust my sister Tammy I was blindsided. Christy wasn't with my mom's friend she has always been with Tammy. For the simple fact is Christy gets SSI check and we have other inheritance and whoever has Christy gets that money. I am beside myself just wanting to see my sister. Tammy took upon herself to have my mother cremated and never told the funeral home I existed. What can I do? I have offered Tammy this solution that from Christmas to Christy birthday (June 27th) one of us have her and then from her birthday to Christmas the other one have her. All royalty and inheritance go into a trust and be governor by our dads last living sister our aunt. And Christy SSI check since I know its already being g used by Tammy that the 6 months I have Christy she sends it to me via PayPal or cash app. I believe that this is a great solution and Noone is kept from Christy birthday or Christmas and we are both in her life. What do yall think.

Thanks

Tina

[Maurice_Mencap Partner]

Hi TinaPeveto , welcome to the community. Sorry to hear of your loss and the current situation. As Mencap is a charity based in the UK many of the members of this community are also based here, so I'm not sure many people will be able to offer any advice about options you could take, especially if you're looking to do something that would involve a legal path or route involving professionals or other parties outside of your family. I'm sure many here would say it would be best for you to be involved in Tammy's life so she has contact with all members of the family. Have you tried reaching out to your sister to see if there's an arrangement you can come to?