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Hi I’ve joined today as I have a son who is 33 who has a mild learning disability and struggles socially to meet people. He has joined dating sites in the past but had never been able to find anyone. I suggested maybe sites for disabled friendships/ dating but he seems to dismiss it. He is desperately trying to find a life of his own and often feels he has no purpose in life.

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helpenquiry

morning, I only recently joined this site to ask for advice for a young person I am working with. Hope this doesn't sound too silly but maybe try to get him to explore his interests - by doing things he likes - he will undoubtedly meet like minded people - and new social circle and perhaps more. There are so many online forums for different interests, I live in west sussex and we have many schemes - all social events found on the local offer- just type it in a search engine. covid is making things harder but not impossible. best wishes to you both

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Clouds12 in reply to helpenquiry

Hi thank you will mention all of these things to him.

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Blue4rose in reply to helpenquiry

We have a similar situation, have just looked at the local offer which I hadn’t heard of. It looks useful, but only seems to go up to age 25, which is a shame as many people over 25 still need opportunities to be active and to socialise.

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Sarah_Mencap

Hello Clouds12

Welcome!

There a post here with some dating advice on - healthunlocked.com/mencap/p... - but it must be very difficult if your son dismisses this sort of thing.

Does your son have friends or siblings he can talk to about this? He may take the suggestions better coming from a non-parent.

It is such a difficult time at the moment, with so few chances to go out and socialise. Does your son go out regularly anywhere, eg groups or to work? These are all chances to meet new people, whether that turns out to be romantic or not.

Best wishes

Sarah

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Clouds12 in reply to Sarah_Mencap

Hi Sarah my son has one friend who he chats to on line which is really good and he has a early morning 3 hour litter picking job which he really loves it’s his life line really. My son has a younger sister and yes it sounds a good idea if maybe it came from her. Thank you for all your help just hoping with time he can find a happier and fulfilling life.

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Ryan_MencapCommunity friend

Hi Clouds12 😊

First of all welcome to the Online Community! I hope you find it a safe and helping community.

I am Ryan, I’m one of Mencaps Community Friends so you will see me popping up quite often in the community 😊

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