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[janeths466]

Hello all! I know this post may not be related but I have been worried. My mom has been doing great, quick update. Hopefully going to the oncologist soon. Only thing has been cough after her surgery and runny noses but she has been fine.

My concern has been my 11 year old sister. For months now she has been eating less. She does eat, but she eats her cravings. She eats cereal, cakes, chips, and just junk food. She says she is scared to vomit at night and has left food with dairy and she is so cautious. She gets anxiety and panic attacks even more when my mom came out of the hospital. She looks thin, even though she has been the same weight for a while. She is pretty active and is never tired which I guess is good.

I am just worried because she has a lymph node on her right side of the neck. It is not big, it is fairly small. But I worry about everything now. I do have health anxiety so bare with me. When she was 8, doctors saw active tb and gave her medicine. She had 2 swollen lymph nodes back then. Now it is only one and it is small. But it never went away since she was small. It does not bother her but I can feel it on one side. I hate google so much beacause I get scared. She looks good, she just gets the fear of eating, and refuses to eat food that can make her sick. I am scares of diseases at this point.

[Denzie Moderator Volunteer]

Stay away from google. It makes your anxiety worse. You say she’s had that enlarged node since she was 8 so I sincerely doubt that it is anything unusual.

At this point I suspect your anxiety is feeding your sister’s anxiety and making it worse. It can’t be helping your mom either. She needs you to take proper care of yourself so she can use her energy to fight the cancer, not to worry that you’re making yourself sick. Have you started back on your meds yet? Has you doctor given you a different prescription?

[Gatorb8]

Hi! My daughter had what I thought was a lump small lymph node on her neck. It is the size of a pea. I took her to my primary care and it didn’t go down after 3 weeks. We did a cat scan and found it to be benign. My doctor believes it is a fatty deposit. I was praying the entire time that it would be me not her with cancer and my lung cancer was found 2 months later. Don’t worry, but do get it checked out. Good luck!!🍀