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She’s gone

Hello everyone

I really didn’t think that I would be posting this so soon but my beautiful mums journey ended on Sunday 15th October. She had been in Hospital fighting pneumonia for just over a week and picked up another nasty infection which she wasn’t strong enough to fight. Only 2 days before she died the surgeon was arranging an operation to pin her hip as the tumour was causing so much pain. I can’t believe she’s gone but her passing was very quick and peaceful and I held her hand until she took her last breath, which is what she would have wanted. I will miss her forever but I can take some comfort in knowing that she is at peace now and not in any pain.

My mums journey with this awful disease was anything but easy and we had so much hope for starting the Nivolumab. I wish she’d had the chance for it to work, to give her more precious time! But she fought until the very end and I am so proud of her.

I am so grateful to have had so much support from members of this site over the past year, every one of your kind words and advice helped me stay strong enough to support my mum. So thank you!

Debbie x

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I know how sad it is when we lose one of our parents. So thankful you were able to be with her til the end. Hold on to all your wonderful memories. Peace to you.

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Oh so sorry to read this. We all hoped that the nivolumab would work for her. I was with my mom when she breathed her last with lung cancer. It's a special kind of honor that a daughter can care for her mom like that. It's not something you will get over easily but I can tell you one day a memory that brings pain now will bring a memory of a smile some day.

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Hi Debbie,

Felt so so sad to read ur post. Lost my dad to lung cancer early this year. My dad died holding my moms hand. Just look back and thank God that it all happened peacefully. Sometimes death just frees a person from an unbearable pain. Your mom is somewhere up there looking down on you. Chin up and be strong.

Love,

Sue

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Debbie, I am so sorry for your loss. Thanking God that you were able to be there for her until the end. Grief is a terrible thing, but as you start your journey, please know that eventually the grief will give way to your final new normal with your mum and you will have so many beautiful memories that will help cover the wound. My granny, who basically raised me, passed many years ago and I thought I just couldn't go on...but I did and the wounds eventually scarred over and now I hold tight to the wonderful memories. I still miss her to this day, but the hurt has yielded to letting go of the struggles.

May God watch over you and comfort you in this time of need.

Lauri-Anne

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Debbie, I am so sorry for your loss of your mother. Hopefully in time the pain of this journey will lesson and only beautiful memories of your mother will comfort you.

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I’m sorry for your loss. I was with my Mother when she passed on May 16, 2016. She was 87 years old and the doctors had told us 5 weeks earlier that her time was very short. She was a born again Christian so I know she’s with my Dad in heaven.

I pray God will give you peace and strength. May God bless you for being a blessing to your mother.

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So sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. May she Rest In Peace now. 🙏🏻

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So sorry glad she went in peace with you holding her hand. You,'ll always remember that how peaceful it was.remember the good times,you,'ll always remember those times.she would want you to remember the good times. Love susiejo1948

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I’m so sorry for your loss but grateful you were with her until the end. Praying for your comfort

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Debbie, I am so sorry for your loss. May the memories of your mom bring you joy and comfort. Love is what remains and that love will be with you always.

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I am so sorry for your loss. What a blessing it is that you were there with her through this journey. May you find peace in the memories of your time with her.

Jean

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Missy, I am so very sorry. What a loss for you. As others have said, it is an honor to be with someone as they make that transition, I imagine that was very comforting to her, and you. Your love binds you together, forever. Please take care of yourself. You did a wonderful job loving and advocating for your mom.

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Dear Debbie,

My deepest condolence may our Lord Jesus Christ give you comfort and strength during this time of sadness. God bless you 🙏🌻

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Oh no! My heart goes out to you and of course, your dear Mum. For some this illness can be very aggressive, and we never know how well we will do. I'm sorry you lost her so quickly, but also feel the comfort in knowing she did not suffer or live feeling sick and in pain for a long period of time -- something none of us ever want. So sorry!

Hugs,

Lisa

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I am so sorry you lost your mum too soon We are never quite ready even when we know their suffering will be over. And we never stop missing them. Prayers are with you.

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I am so sorry for your loss of your mom. Prayers are with you and your family

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So sorry for your loss. I know the pain also, as I lost my Mom a few years ago. Being with them when they pass is so special. The day will come when your pain will turn to happy memories. I will pray for you to have the strength to get through this. God Bless.

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so sorry for you loss prayers

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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom over 25 years ago to lung cancer and have faced it myself. I too was with my Mom when she died. She wanted to be at home. I never thought of death as a form of healing till she died. I felt relief that she was free, then felt guilt for feeling that way. There is such a broad range of emotions, but allow yourself to feel them. Tomorrow would be my Mom's birthday, but feel she will be celebrating in a much happier place. God bless!

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I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. You and your family will be in my prayers.

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