To much to handle!!!

[cdidion]

My dad his his first treatment in 9/8/17. He did pretty good until a few days ago. He was admitted to the hospital on 9/16/17 with fever, lethargy, vomiting and diarrhea. He is now in icu with pneumonia and a small bowel blockage. I feel he is at a very low point not sure if he will pull thru. I'm at my breaking point. Everyone and everything is on my nerves. I mostly just need to vent. Cancer sucks!!! Thanks for listening.

[judg69]

Be strong Connie, Cancer is rough.....Chemo is rough......your Dad may well surprise you. Best Wishes, judg69

[cdidion in reply to judg69]

Thank you so much!!!!

[smkupper in reply to judg69]

Am keeping you and your Dad in prayer. Sometimes, you just have to give it all over. That may sound trite but you are not in charge and you need help. give it to God. Find someone you can vent to. Don't try to do it all yourself and to always be the strong one. Get others on your team. Best of wishes to you and your Dad.

[suerao]

Hi,

Many people have gone through the same road like your dad. Be strong. Please hold on and don't take it to ur heart. Try to get the best available treatment.

I lost my dad to lung cancer, I know how it feels.

Sue

[imina]

Stay strong. Stay in prayer. GOD is in the business of granting miracles. Will be praying for you and him

[anrean]

Hi. In reading other's responses, you've been here before and I hope you know you can always vent here. You said you are at your breaking point, and that concerns me. Maybe it would be a good thing to search out a therapist so that you can talk things out and get some relief. Most hospitals have a social worker and/or therapist, so please ask. Also, perhaps a support group would be a good idea if you can find one. You have so much going on, taking a little of the pressure off sounds like a great idea. I hope your dad pulls through!

Lauri-Anne

[cdidion in reply to anrean]

Thank you so much!!! I'll check to see about. Support group.

[Memaw0100]

I too wound up at the hospital after my first treatment. I think sometimes we underestimate how tough treatment can be. My first treatment was the hardest of all. I have been on bith sides of the fence, so I feel your pain. I've lost many family members to cancer. My Mom died with lung cancer, only to have it myself. I lost a brother only 2 days before mine was found. I can't say with certainty which is worse, caregiver or patient. Hang on to your faith and trust God to take care if you both.

[Ruthie1950]

I pray the doctors are able to help your dad. May God give you both strength to face this difficult time.

Venting does help and we're here to listen. We do t have answers but we can relate with what you're going through.

[cdidion]

Thanks everyone for your kind words.

[ThePurplePlace]

Sending healing thoughts and prayers! My heart goes out to you and your Dad.

[cdidion in reply to ThePurplePlace]

Thank you!!!

[FtB_Peggy]

Oh Connie, how awful. I am so glad you are letting yourself vent and share, sometimes it just has to all come out. We humans don't do well isolated, having gentle ears to listen to us is so important - a safe place to just let it all go. If you ever feel the need to just talk, please call, I would love to hear from you (844.835.4325). But, no obligation - you have enough to worry about, just wanted to offer. Your dad is where he needs to be right now, I hope his horrible symptoms ease very soon and you can let your heart relax a little bit. Please take a moment here and there to do something for your soul - listen to some music, breathe deep, hug a friend, scream into a pillow...You have carried a great deal for too long. As all the warriors here can tell you, it is way harder then it looks. Virtual hugs and prayers coming to you and your father. Please don't hesitate to seek help for yourself, you need support and care right now too.

[cdidion in reply to FtB_Peggy]

Thank you so much Peggy!!! I may just have to take you up on that phone call. I'm the oldest out of 3 girls. I try to be the strong one. They are both a little more hands off than me.

I appreciate being able to vent here. It does help a lot.

Connie

[FtB_Peggy in reply to cdidion]

Oh, bless your heart. It is just a lot. Again, please take care, there is only one Connie!!!!

[GMC1]

Last year my husband was admitted to the hospital after two treatments. He had bilateral pneumonia with blood clots in his lungs. His children were called when he went into ICU. My daughter flew in to help me as I went down myself. Finally we both got better but the doc gave me prescription for Valium to take occasionally when things got rough. My husband came out of it finally and I do take an occasional pill. He had to learn to walk again and be weaned off high oxygen. He is back on another kind of treatment and has first pet scan this Friday.

So hang in there, sometimes it looks bleak and sometimes miracles do happen.

[cdidion in reply to GMC1]

Thank you!!! I needed that. I'm so happy for you and your husband. Please keep me updated 😊😊😊