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My problems started round about 1993, started getting cluster head aches, referred to charring cross hospital in London

Memory problem (operations i.e. shunt.nerves over right -eye burned)

After several visits, and tablet, after tablet.

Which ruined my relationship of nearly 5 years, as I totally changed from being a happy

Life of the party, to a grumpy, misrable, and bad tempered person, who used to just not enjoy

Life, and became very withdrawn, and unbearable to live with, infact it brought an end to my

Realationship.I moved out very quickly, which made my problem even worse. I moved back

With my dad (bless him) shortly afterwards my dad had to stop work due to bad health.

I then stopped work to look after my dad, and even though he was so ill, he always thought

Of me first (he really was the best person you could ever wish to meet) and after two years he lost his fight for life and sadly past away.It four years now and i still think of him everyday.

I then became very depressed, It took me while to get work, as you wouldn’t know by looking at me I had a problem. At first I was wary of how I would be treated because of my problem, and how I would manage or fit in, but luckily I already knew the caretaker from a previous job ,so that helped my case.

I then after starting the job I made sure I kept a close eye on my cleaning chemicals, as I had become

Very forgetful, so that was another worry for me, plus the children would take my stuff and run off. People don’t know how you will behave in certain situations, and don’t take every thing I say to

Heart .As I say things I don’t really mean to say, and I’m not really very good in certain situations

Which causes me not to socialise very much, and withdraw altogether, and I am very quiet.

This is my experience of dealing with my head injury, and I never think all people understand how you are feeling.

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I know what you mean, I find it can be quite lonely when people don't understand. Although there's still stigma attached to depression, at least that's something people can sort of relate to (even though some people remain unkind about it).

But brain injuries, you may as well tell them that you've got three heads and used to live at the bottom of the Sea of Tranquility. A lot of people just don't appreciate what their brains do and so when you tell them you have a brain injury it can often go in one ear and out the other.

The people at Headway centres at least have compassion for it, and understanding. I never found the time to go to a drop-in centre, and I do wish I had. To feel accepted and understood is magical.

It must be hard, but all people on this website can sympathise, that's what I like about it.


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