maybe direction is something i make

[ObiWanKeslowly]

small goals is a good idea.. i want to start by creating a wee bit of space in my life that I own and can nurture. not like retreating into my thoughts all the time.but something I can develop on, other than just my mental state which just spins all by itself.

i don't feel like I have many productive talents after these sorry few years. any advice where to start?

[Jonty77]

do you have any outdoor space? I am growing a few vegetables in my garden and it feels great. Something to nurture and look forward to and being outside and connected to nature and its rhythms is very healing. Even having a couple of pots with things in if space is limited is doable.

[Writeronstack]

I just started by starting a one day at a time mechanism - a 'one-day-log.'

And my making time for myself was just the discipline to say that at 6.15 pm, (for which I set an alarm) I would stop doing or thinking or trying to recall, or whatever, and sit down, and just start at the beginning of the day - and jot down a 'story of the day'.

If I could recall three things in the beginning, then I was doing well.

Now I can do most of the day, in detail. But this is three years on.

There were two benefits - I didn't 'lose' the time spent each day, and sometimes reading over what I had done, made me feel that I should be more confident about attempting the things I used to do - see, here is evidence that I CAN do it, or something like it. That was a good thing.

The other benefit was to 'recapture' that actual day, and tell myself what I need to do tomorrow. Usually really mundane, like 'clean the wash basin - bring the cleaning things upstairs - that will remind you.' So things started getting done. That made me feel more like I was contributing to the family's life.

Also, growing something, like Jonty77 said is also a good thing - something YOU do, and it is yours to encourage. I do that too. I did some watering this morning - kitchen pots - and it feels lovely.

Well done for thinking about it - step one done.

[Graceissufficient]

Gosh, I replied but obvs didn't hit reply button.

Draw a bit? Write a poem? I'm now trying to learn a song ... Panis Angelicus. It's incredibly difficult for me. Remembering the words, getting the notes. But no one has to listen to me, and I am improving at my snail pace.

[bonfire]

Gratitude journal?

Tidy a drawer?

Get off the sofa?

Buddhism?

Do you read?

Walk in nature?

I like the name ObiWankeslowly