Mild TBI

[AliLennox]

My husband was hit head on on Hogmanay and suffered from many injuries, including a mild TBI. His personality has changed and it is like living with a different person. I feel incredibly alone and isolated. Looking for anyone to provide advice if in similar situation.

[Mads1975]

Hello Ali, as the person who suffered the brain injury myself, I can only say that it is in the months/first years following, that your spouse’s support is most needed.

I would suggest calling headway and asking for guidance in choosing a relationship counsellor to work with you both?

[AliLennox in reply to Mads1975]

Thank you for your reply, really appreciate it!

[Chocolateisfabulous]

My husband has frontal lobe brain injury. It was many years ago now . Our children were very very young at the time. The first few years were difficult and we weren't sure if our marriage would last even though we were very close before. We had a good counsellor but even that was hard going and we had to pay privately. Services were less than helpful and I felt isolated from friends and family as husband and children couldn't be left and nobody understood really. I feel the only way I got through was to remind myself daily or more that I was choosing to continue a bit longer to see if things got better. I think at one point a Dr told me it would take at least 2 years and I focused on that a bit. It took much longer. Maybe 10 years at least Im afraid to say. I do think time to recover and adjust is what was needed for us but this took a lot longer than I ever expected or would have thought I could tolerate. We have had lots of great times along the way but we paid for it afterwards both financially and emotionally. I hope things get better for you and your husband. However that looks for you. One day at a time is possibly what's needed.

[AliLennox in reply to Chocolateisfabulous]

Thank you, I really appreciate you sharing that with me. My husband also sustained a frontal lobe injury, the part that controls a persons inhibitions and it is very difficult to see the change in him. But as you say, one day at a time as it's only been 6 months. Thank you so much x

[skydivesurvivor in reply to AliLennox]

Frustrating for you both?!! To SMILE to the stupid moments helps me greatly!! + the support we find here! Take care n keep safe

[AliLennox in reply to skydivesurvivor]

Thank you! X