coronation/birthday/visit day

[Dogsabighelp]

i confess was dreading this visit,the first since meeting.had spoken with sean last night and told him i would be coming with holdalls etc to remove as much as possible,he promised to comply.my plan was to stay in his room.i did this and got quite a good amount of stuff off walls,some clothes too.a carer came in about 11.45 and asked if he would like burger or hot dog for lunch,no management on duty,but all team seemed ok in cafe area eating chocs etc.lunch came to sean(he now refuses to leave room at all)delivered by a carer who was clearly very keen to speak with me.he told me they had been informed unit manager is on "holiday",and many rumours...he asked that we exchange numbers and another relative was wanting to contact me.a lot of other stuff was spoken about.this is a very difficult situation for me.my priority was always for my boy,that i had dealt with c.h.c the way i did is making others ask questions?this is of course can only be a good thing.some hours later,i always take some time to think about what was actually said to me..sometimes,like today when someone is number crunching to me,i have took a while to look at company profits(i was a business manager)k.p.i considered for each unit the discrepancies are enormous.only one facility came in at budget and that was in 2018.i know what it costs to keep my son in that room each week,telling you a hot dog and drumstick aint cutting it....these are available details for public at any time.it is our right to ask about social care.bottom line guys i was approached by a staff member..

in a lot of ways,i cant refuse,in a lot of ways i wish it was someone else.that said after 16th im all in!!!

[Leaf100]

Well, can't say as I am surprised. Just keep in mind you need to look after you, and giving others some tips is different than doing it all yourself. If enough get educated and know what to look for and don't put up with it, will it change for everyone?

I am not sure.

All I do know is a heck of a lot of people rake advantage when they think people can't fight back , and no one else notices.

Just remember your health and Sean come first. I say it that way, think of how on airlines they tell people to out your own air mask on before helping others.

And I am curious where Missy ends up - is she just going to move elsewhere and do the same? You may not want to go down the rabbit hole and I would understand completely why not.

Leaf x

[Pairofboots]

You have highlighted deficits in Sean's care, and appropriately rocked the boat. If you can arm others all well and good, inform others, support them, but let them take the lead. As someone told me many moons ago, others will load the bullets, and let you pull the trigger, hold back, others will always step up.

[Alibongo60]

Hi D, I’m same as pair of boots, you look after Sean, let others look after their own, it’s no good them making bullets for you to fire, unless it involves Sean, and you’ve achieved what you’ve needed to in getting him out of there, and the sooner the better. I should imagine the can of worms has been opened and will be under scrutiny now anyway. Get that packing done and get your boy safe love Alice xx