Inhibition issues

[Angrychihuahua]

Good morning-

First time poster here, although I have lurked from afar.

I was hit by a car in 2020 and knocked out. Poor treatment at hospital meant misdiagnosis and raging PCS for 9 months leading to being off work - and still taking Amitriptyline for migraines at night.

Anyway, my question is: apart from being snappy, forgetful and intolerant, has anyone else suffered from sexual inhibition??

I’ve gone from being reserved and private, to regular ‘massages’, one night stands, risky encounters and utter disregard for social niceties. My sex drive is suddenly ridiculous, and I’m worried that I am putting my health and marriage at risk - but don’t feel bad enough about it to stop. I can’t tell my doctor or confide in anyone else as this is NOT normal for me . Please can someone advise without judgment!

Thank you

[paxo05]

Good morning,

Firstly it is common with a bi along with mood swings. Secondly please tell your gp they can help you get to grips with this.

Perso all I was lucky/ unlucky that my petruitory ( not sure on spelling) gland was damaged. Although the inappropriate feelings were there the ability was not.

It got so bad as I froze when hugged as I was unsure of what response was appropriate.

Initially I got into a few embarrassing situations and lost friends.

There is help but you need to seek help. Try asking for a different gp if it helps.

Don't give up,

Pax

[Angrychihuahua in reply to paxo05]

Thank you - I didn’t think my BI was bad enough to have this happen, but here I am. My GP is horribly unapproachable/sympathetic so I may have to change Dr.

I wonder if psychologist might be able to help me change behaviour

[paxo05 in reply to Angrychihuahua]

Try a different gp. Yes psychologist could help or at least forward you on to someone who can.

There may be no cure but you can learn to adapt behaviour.

There is a solution out there.

Pax

[cat3]

If your GP can't help (they're generally poor on brain injury issues) please phone the Headway helpline where you'll find none judgmental support and help in seeking treatment.

Sexual disinhibition can be a direct result of brain trauma but can be managed with the help of a neuropsychologist, but someone in the Headway team can direct you toward the most tried & tested treatment.

Personally I'm thinking that talking it through with your partner or a close friend would be a start in freeing yourself of the burden but, if this isn't an option, please contact Headway who have experience in helping folk through all manner of post-injury issues, including sexual ones.

Headway's tel.no is (freephone) 0808 800 2244 during office hours. Please try them before the bank holiday this Thurs. & Fri. and hopefully look forward to some peace of mind..

Let us know how you get on. Cat x

[paxo05 in reply to cat3]

Now that IS sound advice. Headway totally escaped me for the moment. They are the best go to for all associated bi problems.

Great advice again Cat.

[cat3 in reply to paxo05]

👍🏻 x

[Angrychihuahua in reply to cat3]

Thank you - I will be alone the coming week so will be able to call then. Thank you. Discussing this issue with anyone who knows me isn’t really a good idea as it is mortifying enough asking on this forum, but speaking to an anonymous person on the phone may be helpful. There is a mental health phone line at work but I don’t trust it to be confidential at all!! Thank you both

[cat3 in reply to Angrychihuahua]

Headway is totally confidential so no worries. Hope this leads towards treatment and freedom from worry.. x

[Skulls]

Disinhibition is a known symptom so your GP should be understanding. I am grateful for an understanding wife, though I did not make advances to the nurses to whom I was attracted. I did, however, propose marriage to at least one ( and was swiftly refused). I have not sought specific treatment as the NHS has washed its hands of me.

[Leaf100]

HI AngryC

You've got some great advice already.

I will just add that it is really a good idea to get checked out by a proper health professional that Headway can help you find.

A lot of systems can get mucked up and hormone disregulation is also possible. Without proper diagnosis you may be leaving something untreated that can impact your health. For example, there is a difference between having the filters working as before in this arena, and feeling this way because suddenly say your testosterone production is high or out of balance with other regulators.

Please do go and get checked out. I understand discussing these things can be embarrassing and even difficult because of a kind of ptsd like aversion from dealing with medical people who didn't get it or who were less than sympathetic. Some of them do come up with some of the strangest notions.

Also ask Headway if there some brain injury literate / sympathetiic gp's in your area and how you go about checking them for compatibility and potentially switching. Some do think they are literate when they really are not, and they have a very narrow view of what the symptoms are. So realize the search for a gp may take some persistence, though you may get lucky and find a fit reasonably quickly.

Keep us posted.

Leaf