Feeling trapped

[thrillseeker]

Trigger warning

Why is it that I am been treat like I am a criminal

Most of my life had been hard to deal with things and I have found that no one has helped me suffering a brain injury has changed my life, I am been treat like I am a domestic abuser I have a brain injury and anything and everything can upset me make me feel rubbish not only am I facing losing my beloved family but I face been makes as a domestic abuser and that’s not the case the social services have told my partner if she helps me she faces losing our children and that isn’t fair as that’s blackmail as I am struggling with many things already and always have I need help and I don’t know who I can turn to to get that help

I feel disconnected from my family And children and their every day achievements and Partner this is hard to take on board as it is but when the social services are saying that I was abusive and I wasn’t

A lot had changed since the last social intervention when we realised we weren’t going to get any help but were expected to do what my GP couldn’t or face repercussions but since then my step daughter has said that I am abusive and this is untrue, she

The main point I’m trying to make is that are untrue and I am being treated like a criminal undeserving of support with my mental health or learning difficulties

I know better than most the consequences of incurable brain scarring and the impact of living with it the rest of my life

Although I would not wish this pain and anguish upon anyone this does not mean that I am undeserving of a family and their love

The whole ordeal has basically made me want to end my life on a multiple occasions for the past 2 and a half months I have been so low and down nothing has been working I am having to pull all I have with in me to the top so I am not seen as a danger to my family and children but all they are bothered about is making me look bad I have shown them my brain injury ID card and yes you guessed it not bothered I have only just gotten an adult social worker and was meant to see her last Friday and still nothing she got called out on something else I am unable to get my own view across as to all of this but I had a cognitive assessment done and my IQ is below average 69% and I have to have an Intermediary someone that will make sure I know what is expected of me and so on just to make sure I know what they are talking about and there not to use big words that I won’t know around me

[sealiphone]

I've had a look at your previous post, as I'm only a occasional visitor and not come across you before and I saw this goes back a very long time and it sounds like you've 'survived' going through hell.

Forgive me if I'm talking about possibilities that have failed so far, I hope what I say will be clear or someone else is there to read this.

I met someone at a Headway meeting and it had taken 15 years to sit in front of a Neuropsychologist and finally speak to someone who understood and was able to provide something useful.

What you describe in terms of your perceived behavior is unfortunately not uncommon.

I say perceived by others, as again it fairly common for someone with a ABI to be unaware how they are coming across and equally frustration may be confused as unreasonable anger.

Again mental health problems are very common, I've been diagnosed with Clinical depression, following my ABI.

You mention IQ and I was given a IQ test before I saw a Neuropsychologist who told it wasn't useful, they gave me different tests.

If it's not already happened you definitely need help from a Neurological service, your GP would have to make a referral but in some areas such a service may not exist.

If you do have anger management problems this is a condition with which they can help.

Good luck.

[thrillseeker in reply to sealiphone]

Thanks I will definitely ask about that

[thrillseeker in reply to sealiphone]

But I have lost my family because of that

[Marnie22]

Hi. I am sorry that things are so hard for you.

You could try getting an advocate - local authorities usually fund a local advocacy service. The social worker or the Citizens Advice Bureau would know, or it can be tracked down online.

You could call the Headway helpline on 0808 800 2244. They are very caring and understanding and have lots of good information.

🙂🌸

[thrillseeker in reply to Marnie22]

Thanks for that

[samanthaash1993]

Hi. I'm sorry you're going through that. It's like everyone's attacking you and treating you like a kid. I get that. I feel like that too sometimes. My own family tried the, you can't blaim everything on brain damage, crap! They also threatened the authorities because of my violence at times during the rages I have. I don't mean to be violent. It just happens. I know how you feel re, unfairness. I also know how you feel re, suicide. But try not to think like that, as people would miss you. They might act like crap, but deep down, they would miss you, and feel guilty for what they've done. I don't know if headway can help? They have a helpline? Also, I'm having counselling with a lady Katie Carroll, a brain injury counsellor. Maybe look into that?

[thrillseeker in reply to samanthaash1993]

Thank you