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[Solus_Spes]

OK... Here goes,i wasn't sure what to call this post but that seemed the best.

H2b suffered hypoxic brain injury 18 months ago, amazing recovery etc. Etc.

Anyway my question I need help with is how do I deal with the I understand why things have to be the way they are but my brain just wants something more normal.

Basically first holiday in 18 months since BI got to the holiday cottage and it doesn't work in terms of ceiling height in some areas and stairs that aren't manageable (we didn't think they were as bad as they actually are) add in a bathroom down stairs and h2b has decided to sleep on the couch (really feels weird as we are away with my parents) basically as much as I understand why he has made the decision I wanted him to be in bed with me... Or at least try to stay in a bedroom one night.

Hopefully this makes sense...

[Dougieunited]

Good Morning Solus. I'm not sure I can answer your question, completely, but I can give you some of my experience as a brain injury survivor. One of the things I really struggle with is when routines change, unexpected things happen or things don't go as planned. Thankfully over time (nearly 3 years post bi) this has improved and I am getting better at dealing with the unexpected. If I think back to our first holiday, post bi, I didn't really do a lot. I spent a lot of time resting and keeping myself to myself. Last month we had a trip to California and that was a full on holiday, lots of travelling and different accommodation some of which wasn't quite as perfect as we were expecting. Now, not so long ago the unexpected would have really thrown me but I am now, better, able to deal with this.

I hope that helps a tiny bit.

Neil

[Lynd]

Hi Solus

Maybe the strange environment has made him lose his confidence.

I understand your frustration but try to enjoy your holiday. They are always over much to quickly. Hope you get lots of sunshine. X