Forgiveness doesnt solve everything

[bexx87]

So this is from one of the nacoa speakers and sums up how i was raised when i got out of hospital perfectly so my reaponse was:

"Having a brain injury when i was 13 and a alcoholic mother since before i was born when i got home out of hospital all my mum did was be emotionally and verbally abusive towards me but when around her alcholic friends i was ignored and my mum played the victim and now that i have moved out to get away feom her all of her friends can not see whats like and some have apologised to me for not seeing though her as she is still talking shit about me but some of her friends think i have abandoned her when despite her having a triple heart bylass she still smokes smd drinks so i have no sympathy for her and my uncle csn now see my view point have lived with her and seen what i see its hard knowing that im abandoned by her i dont even get a happy birthday message from her but i do from her brother and cousins to make up for it but i am in a far better position then i have every been and i jave learned to accept help and my injury when i spent so many years being told by her im fine, i dont need help but its hard work trying to repair the damage she caused by group therapy but i have to believe it is possible for me to heal"

I hope that this helps others as well

[Lynd]

Totally agree. Forgiveness does not solve everything. If you can reach that point of forgiveness though it's one part of the journey done with.

I sort of see life as a series of boxes and the box I have for people who have hurt me emotionally in the past only occasionally are allowed out of the box for me to have a look at but put back pretty quickly with the lid firmly down.

Hope that makes sense x

[bexx87 in reply to Lynd]

Yes it does my mum has never been to leave her box

[Lynd in reply to bexx87]

Leave her in that box Bex.

Every day that you have something good happen is a triumph for you. X

[Cj-195]

Would you forget and trust them again? 😕