Brain injury!

It’s been almost 6 months since my bf accident. He eyes are open, and does some movement. He still not trying to talk, or follow simple command like “show me two fingers” he does track. And does react to certain things. Any advice? Or words of encouragement?

[SillyPhil]

I don't know what to say. He may be aware that you're there. But he may not. He may recover sufficiently to get out of bed and recognise you. He may not. It is harder for you than it is for him. I admire your loyalty anf love for him. I fear that he will never be the person that you remember. But there is always a slight chance that he may be. I had my accident 20 years ago. The usual happened, ie I lost my Wife, job, friends, new home I'd just built in Australia.. I am never going to be the person that I once was. I am hard to live with. We TBI Survivors tend to be. I wish you luck x

[Hidden in reply to SillyPhil]

Thankyou for responding to me! I’m so sorry about your accident! How long did it take for you to recover?

[SillyPhil in reply to Hidden]

'Recover' is an interesting word. Everyone is different and, no matter how bad the accident, how long the coma, the cause (stroke, oxygen starvation to the brain, aneurism, trauma..) we can all have similar or very different symptoms and degrees of recovery. I would say that I will never recover because to me recovery is getting back to the person that I was before my accident. Most of us never do. For me acceptance is an ongoing battle. You could chat to me in a pub or coffee shop and never know that I have a damaged brain. But it reminds me that I have cognitive/executive problems every time I try to achieve anything. And the undamaged part of me still expects me to be able to. Bit I can't. And I get huge fatigue every time I try to concentrate.

You do hear of people who make a 'full recovery', but very few. Please be prepared for the worst BUT hope for the best. And read as many Headway booklets as you can. Maybe find a local Headway Group and pop along. 20 years after my accident I still go regarly to touch base with people who really understand.

I hope that your boyfriend is one of the lucky ones X

[Hidden in reply to SillyPhil]

Thankyou for all your kind words and advice! Best to you!

[steve55]

6 months as far as a brain injury is concerned is no time at all, i know its difficult, but be patient hes got to start learning to do things all over again. as youve found at this moment in time he reacts to somethings but not others.

steve

[Hidden in reply to steve55]

Yeah comment was so reassuring Thankyou!

[steve55 in reply to Hidden]

if you want anymore info this is the place to come.

steve