Hypoxic brain injury: My husband of 37 years... - Headway


7,792 members10,237 posts

Hypoxic brain injury


My husband of 37 years suffered a cardiac arrest 4 and half months ago. It was a complete and utter shock to our lovely family. Although he is progressing nicely. He is currently in rehab. He still does not remember anything. I keep showing him videoes and photos daily. Anybody else had experience of this. Will he ever regain his memory. This is truly heartbreaking for me as we had the most perfect life of love.

13 Replies

Meant to write married for 37 years. His age is 60.

keep in touch, we are all here for you. x

Thank you x

Hi Linda, I am so sorry. These instances are truly awful to have to deal with.

The honest answer is no one can be sure but you are doing the right thing. Patience and time are the watchwords, unfortunately we are given a very watered down version of the consequences of brain injury and I am sure many people did not realise that heart attack can lead to brain injury.

It is a long road but hopefully wth the love and support of his family your husband will make a good recovery, whether that will be a return to your previous life only time will tell.

My thoughts are with you.

Janet x

Lindabuxton in reply to Kirk5w7

Thank you for taking the time to reply x

Annie-GBIA in reply to Kirk5w7

If anyone ever wants what they may consider the 'hard truth' let me know... it really is something people can deal with...

How sad this is Linda. Unfortunately the after effects of any brain injury are so specific to each person that there simply aren't any rules or generalisations to refer to.

But you're definitely on the right track in repeatedly showing your husband images of familiar people/places etc. Try his favourite music ; music can be so evocative. ...........and smells too.

All best wishes for positive improvements in your man's condition. And remember we're always here if you need to talk/offload. Love Cat x

Annie-GBIA in reply to cat3

Actually Cat there are huge similarities for us survivors... across all kinds of causes. People are led to believe in hopelessness but it really isn't like that...

many things can help- getting the real gist of what is really going on is biggest thing. I can help with understanding what is thought and what is real xxx

Thank you x

>Will he ever regain his memory? Quite impossible to predict, as everyone is different. I'm about 3 and a half years post SCA where I sustained an anoxic brain injury. I am 65 now. For me there are some things that I simply can’t remember, even long term. Fortunately, I can recall many of my close family relationships and events. There are other relationships I am having to recreate. One of the most valuable things I’ve realized is I need to let go of the idea that I will regain my old life, because I have no idea if that will ever happen. And while I was waiting for that to happen, I was stuck in no man’s land, and was not creating the life I am in now. So now, I just go about creating my new life the best I can. Some days are better than others are. Taking it a day at a time and sometimes an hour at a time helps me to cope with this huge change in my life. I am so sorry that you and your husband are going through this. If you have any other questions, please feel free to contact me here.

Thank you. I think the hardest thing for me is the (Not Knowing). What will he be like? When eventually he does come home.

Hi Linda, you have found a lovely place for support with lots of wonderful people, so please always feel you can vent/ask away! As already said everyone is different but I sure wouldn't give up, you're doing great, keep showing your hubby photos, play music that means something to him etc etc. best wishes to you. Let us all know how things are going. Remember to take care of yourself too tho! Lots of love. xx

Lindabuxton in reply to peaches2

Thank you so much xx

You may also like...