Pace yourself

Definitely is the best, and most important way to cope with a head injury- so difficult in this world! I can't keep up with the pace of most things. Sometimes I have to switch everything off and just have quiet because otherwise it feels like brain-overload.

[cat3]

Keeping up can be exhausting can't it especially now, in the run up to Christmas 'til new year ! I was saying only yesterday how I'd love to sneak off to a remote inn up in the hills and stay for the whole 'festive' season ! Trouble is more & more people are thinking the same way so nowhere's quiet any more (ironically no room at the inn).

I feel sorry for those of us with jobs to go to every day ; at least I can rest if/when I need to (mostly) and my family are understanding and undemanding.

So welcome Aqua to the place where exhaustion is the BI-word !! x

[Hidden in reply to cat3]

Thank you! Nice to feel welcome- no-one else has ever understood anything I say, especially things that are on my mind.

Xmas is a nightmare, also happy I am not working and have managed to scrape by with temporary work and am now at home with my son.

[TiredNan in reply to Hidden]

Hi aqua,

Learning to pace yourself is definitely the answer... as you say it is hard to do at times.

By heck it's hell out there at christmas time.... have a tin hat and hide behind the sofa with us...

[Hidden in reply to TiredNan]

Yes, time to enjoy the isolation! My son is 3 and really getting into it this year so I have to get involved for him. I may have a happy xmas this year for once

[TiredNan in reply to Hidden]

I hope that you do have a good christmas,,, my grand daughter is 3 same age as your lovely boy...and I am having a lie down in a dark room in a bit after going to the panto this afternoon .

( under escort for me ha ha)

She loved it... for me it was a total saga of coping physically and mentally.

Although I did use the the shouting of loud boos at the villian and " he's behind you" as a sort of stress relief.

And i got myself a wand too that lights up and waved it about lots. My daughter was mortified...

oh yes she was

Oh no she wasnt

Oh yes she was

[sospan in reply to cat3]

The sneaking away to a remote place was always a dream of mine. Pack up some nice food and drinks, get some friends/family and go somewhere like Stornoway where it gets some very wild weather and stay in a cottage.

While the storms do their worst outside, stay inside by the fire, enjoy the food and company. Then go out for a bracing walk by the sea and return with a nice glow to some warm drinks and food and few games by the fire.

I bet each nights sleep would be the best you have ever had.

[cat3 in reply to sospan]

I suppose many of us have our fantasies of an escape Sos, and I'm sure if we made it happen it would be heavenly. But how to block out the guilt ? ..................... and then face all the Why, Why Whys ??

So it'll no doubt be Deeeep breath and.............................INTO THE BREACH DEAR FRIENDS ! (Think of me, thinking of you, and all other tortured Christmas victims ). xx

[sospan in reply to cat3]

Wasn't so much about running away for Christmas - it was my dream to do this anytime of the year

[cat3 in reply to sospan]

Oh yes ; fair point. But for me it would be just the perfect antidote to what is otherwise a stressful and exhausting period.

Just thinking aloud really ; I'll go through the motions for the sake of my family who I love dearly, and feel all the better for it................once it's all over !! x

[sospan in reply to cat3]

Must admit the magic of Christmas seems to have gone for me too - over the years and it seems something to endure than enjoy

[cat3 in reply to sospan]

Trouble is, if you're a bit of a romantic (like I once was) you yearn for a calm, relaxed Christmas morning unwrapping gifts in dressing gowns and occasionally checking on the turkey.

Then neighbours popping in (festive but calm) for a mince pie and a tipple then a long walk through the park (still calm) before 40 winks in the armchair and a pleasant turkey and salad teatime.

If only being post BI didn't guarantee a permanent state of anxiety all this would've been a possibility ! xx

[sospan in reply to cat3]

Christmas for us always used to be a panic, manic, frantic - most of the ics.

Staying up late waiting for the kids to go to sleep and us staying awake along enough to get the presents out from their hiding places to the kids room.

Then probably waking up about an hour later when one of the kids spotted the presents in the early hours.

The battle between the need for sleep whilst being kept awake by drinks and noisy toys and kids running around before the final relief of the turkey landing on the christmas table.

[cat3 in reply to sospan]

Same here. But pre BI it was a different kind of exhaustion ; a healthier one which we could laugh about. I miss those days but we are where we are, and now it's the turn of the grandkids to wear us out !

Have a good one Aqua, but remember those magic words !! xx

[Sem2011 in reply to cat3]

well said Cat! I wish too for a remote inn until all the noise, lights are over.

[cat3 in reply to Sem2011]

Maybe in another life Sara ??

I've been shopping all afternoon and in every shop/store there was deafening 'Christmassy' music. Trouble is, Christmas is 'done to death' before we even get there, so no wonder we're so worn out on the day !

ANYway.................all the best m'dear ! x

[Sem2011 in reply to cat3]

totally agree, done to death . Hope your having a well deserved rest today, and I keep thinking in 10 days it all be over😉Best wishes Catxx

[Hidden]

Welcome aqua. How true.... 'pace yourself' is my daily mantra. If I don't .... it takes a long, long time to recuperate. Yep, sensory overload is what stops us in our tracks (literally) when it's too late! 😬

This time of the year is a shocker. I do not go near any shopping centres/complexes to avoid that guaranteed spontaneous mental meltdown.

Happy Xmas everyone.

[Hidden]

Isolation from sensory overload- since I found this site, I am finding all the ways to explain how I feel but can never think of the words!

Happy Xmas to all as well