My beautiful dad

[Pocketsize1]

To continue.... As a family we wish out of love that he would pass away x

[steve55]

what do the docs say

[razyheath43 in reply to steve55]

oh bless you all! hope is good,on the reacovery side.i really do hope that youre dad gets better.i would to add a quote from a book called a crack in forever(by Jeannie Brewer) "give yourself to those in need,a meal cooked a hand held a back washed a laugh shared give what is precious,youre time youre compassion youre strength for giving is the salve that heals humankind the caulk that seals the crack "

[TBI2015]

This is so very sad ...but I completely understand where you are coming from there is nothing worse than seeing a family member "exist"....the only advice I would give you is to remember what will happen will happen whether you sit and worry or not. It is so hard to do but life is short and precious so don't forget to live your own life too as I'm sure by the sounds of your gentle dad that's what he would want for you xxx

[Elkay_1954]

Hang on in there. It can be a long and rocky road and, by now, your family will be getting exhausted - emotionally and physically. Brain injury is a tricky little thing - there is no 'one size fits all'. Each recovery, and treatment, has to be tailor made and it can often feel like you are standing still. Look after yourself, eat regularly and get plenty of sleep so you feel more able to cope with issues as they arrive. It really is early days - we are two years in from our experience and life is getting easier. Sending you an enormous virtual hug. X

[Elenor3]

I'm so sorry about your situation. Aware that whatever my own dark feelings about my recent brain injury......my family are all innocent by-standers in my nightmare - they all look tired six months on. I'm also aware that no matter how exhausted, defeated and heartbroken by it all I might feel - they're probably feeling the same. What I'm trying to say is that your thoghts and feelings are a perfectly normal reaction to an unimaginable situation, one you had no time to prepare for or comprehend the impact. I wish you so much peace and hope things start to improve. Take care x

[Kirk5w7]

Hi Pocketsize looked back to your original post and I see it was approximately 6 months ago this happened. In the grand scheme of things it is still early days.

You have had excellent advice already, it's a long hard road and no guarantees the Dad you knew will return. But, he is in there if you look for him, you just have to persevere. I'm sure it won't help if he is frustrated too.

Hopefully he is still receiving suitable help to enable him to have the best possible outcome. Please seek all the help and advice you can feom Headway, and come back here whenever you feel the need .

Janet xx

[sca2013]

Sorry for you all having to experience this. I get where you're coming from and wish the best to all of you.

[annharford]

Hi pocketsize, my dad had a tbi nearly 3 years ago after having a fall his recovery was really slow but he got there in the end. The medics said he wouldn't be able to do anything for himself but against all odds he is better than we imagined. Just give it time. I hated hearing that word but its true. Make sure u look after yourself too I know its hard much love xx

[Pocketsize1]

Thank you all for your kind comments, unfortunately after my Dad's fall 6 months ago, he has made no improvement, he has severe brain injury, wheel chair bound, double incontanence and very confused. We have been told now that after extensive rehab that he will get no better...he spent his life being in the armed forces, being a wonderful husband, father, grandad and now great grandad, we so wish he could pass away because we know he would choose this if he could. We have gone from heartbreak to hope so many times and now we are trying to accept what is unexceptable to him. He was and is one of the good ones, he deserves a peaceful ending and our laws won't give him that. I never in a million years thought I would wish for his passing, but now I do xxx