Dad can't speak but he stuck 2 fingers up at my brother tonight!

[Lubilu01]

It is exactly the sort of thing he would have done before his SAH, so it appears he still has his sense of humour. I hope the next thing will be hearing him uttering a four letter word, any word will do actually! Best wishes to all xx

[iforget]

A sense of humour has probably saved many of us...good to hear your dad still has his to work with. I am sure it will come in very handy in the coming weeks/months.

Thanks for sharing the little things with us...they really do matter!

[Lubilu01 in reply to iforget]

He has always been a lively character, he has hardly spoken for 5 months, just a couple of words. He has been moved recently to a specialist unit so hopefully the speech therapist and physio will help x

[TC1979]

I had an RTA when I was 20, got rushed to hospital, had scan, went straight to surgery for blood clot removal in brain ( really should find out what abbreviations to use because everyone else knows that they had a SAH etc but I don't ), anyway back to the answer.

My sense of humour was still apparent even though I was not mobile, speaking, eating solids ....., as Iforgot mentions the sense of humour is a saving factor and certainly an indicator that there is a bit of the old person left which gives on going hope.

I don't know whether my age is a beneficial factor to my recovery but I believe it is and have many a quite remarkable recovery.

Good luck.

[fuzzyhead in reply to TC1979]

Sounds like you had a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), TC. You are right, the younger you are the better your recovery is likely to be, but that still doesn't account for certain things that just can't be fixed. The old me doesn't exist any more, my sense of humour has just changed with me...I'm all about slapstick and utter silliness now...funnily enough I don't remember finding many things funny at all before my accident (I was 11, I'm nearly 33 now so I'm used to the post-injury me)!

[Lubilu01 in reply to TC1979]

Sorry TC, it is a type of bleed on the brain, subarachnoid haemmorage. Bit of a mouthful! My spelling may not be quite right either! He sometimes laughs at things we say, not out loud though. We are not sure if he understands but it's better than seeing him depressed as he was before he was moved x

[TC1979 in reply to Lubilu01]

No worries, I don't really know enough about my own injuries to be able to mention them on this site, call it homework.

We all repair at different rates and in different ways too. Try not to be too upset if you start to notice that he is not not the person that he used to be because he probably knows too and there is not much that he can do about it.

[Lubilu01 in reply to TC1979]

I know he will never be the same person, his bleed was massive and classed as catastrophic, I don't think he was expected to come as far as he has. Nobody can say how long it will take or to what extent he will improve. As I've mentioned, my mum had the same thing last December although less severe ( whats the chances of that happening, both my parents in less than a year!) she has made a good recovery but at the time nobody could say how she would be affected in the long term. I've become a bit of an expert in this field recently so I am under no illusions, thanks for replying x

[kel1203]

It's great when that kind of things happen, they're only a little, but they mean alot. My partner was telling me about the first time i was swearing, she was the first time she knew I was starting to get better. Good luck!

[Lubilu01 in reply to kel1203]

I do think that if he regains his speech the nurses will be entertained by his choice of words! My mum also had a SAH last December and she certainly turned the air blue at the time! She has made a pretty good recovery, just waiting for dad to improve now x

[ncmurphy1951]

a great sign everyone knew i was going to be ok when into my hospital room came a heavily pregnanat lady i didnt know and i said now i am 4 days out my coma bedridden incontinent on so many pain killers all i could say was sorry havent a clue who you are but and staring at her bump i am not guilty turned out it was a friend of my sisters she was in the lift

very important to keep a sense of humour tomorrow i am going for a bowel cancer test in short a flush out enema and camera up bum into stomach saving the details of cancer i just say in short i am having something few weirdos pay a fortune for from a mistress dressed in black leather neil

[Lubilu01 in reply to ncmurphy1951]

Haha, I like the not guilty bit. All the best for tomorrow Neil, let me know how you go on x

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How you doing leeleelee? Xx

[ncmurphy1951]

lubiu01 thankyou before my injury i did have a shap and often dry sense of humour saying what i did in an instant showed anyone who knew me that what was later proved after many many tests that my brain was unaffected i was educated at a benedictine monastery school where the mass was sung in latin ribbing me one day one of the nurses challenged me to prove it so i belted out the creed in latin credo indeium deo etc etc

tomorrow is a must do inspection just to prove i havent got cancer why i have seen 5 people die of cancer and i havent got it the symtoms stopped in november so an hour or so of discomfort a small price to play a week before my 52nd birthday neil

[Lubilu01 in reply to ncmurphy1951]

Well good luck todyay Neil, better to have a check up. Sorry to hear about your friends. It's been like that for us recently, one thing after another. Keep thinking that must be it now and then something else happens! My uncle had a bone marrow transplant, mum and Aunty had breast cancer, mum and dad had SAH in a year and my grandad passed away, but somehow we keep going! My 4 year old keeps me distracted! Yes, my dad sounds a bit like you, he was always cracking a joke and always saw the humour in everything xx

[ncmurphy1951]

lubilou thank you i must admit i lost any sense of humour i had this morning stuck in cold at local cafe received a call from adult social services asking where was i there was someone at my house waiting to see me what meet i asked oh ddnt we tell you no you didnt i replied well they want to run through a few thiungs ass code for tell you how to run your life

[Lubilu01 in reply to ncmurphy1951]

Oh dear, I've not had any dealings with adult social services, we may do when dad eventually comes home though. My family, not me personally, were very badly let down by social services. How did your check up go? X

[ncmurphy1951]

thank you not the greatest success at hosp waited an hour to be seen letter told me id be in and out in 90mins 3 hours later lying flat on back no air told if i have a sedative ie knocked out id be another hou by now 3.45 decided to try without sedative but far far to painful doc called a halt still had the enenma part

[ncmurphy1951]

am fed up if you do step outside frostbitten limbs in seconds i now ofically hate detest snow and ice ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[Lubilu01]

Yes Neil, I too hate the snow ice, I hate th cold too, in fact I want a lovely little villa on a Greek island! I wish! But I mustn't moan, a least I am able to get out unlike a lot of people xx