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Man of the match

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Some of you may already know that I travel to my nearest Headwa branch all by myself now , which consists of two bus rides and a ferry trip.

It takes me about an hour to get there and it is all because of the help Headway has given m that got me there :).

Anyway, I go there on Thursdays where the group play board games and later play boccia (pronounced like botcha).

To make things a little more interesting, Headway have now introduced a 'man of the match' awarded to the person who may have played well.

The first week Headway decided to have this 'man of the match' award, I go ahead and win it :).

I do admit that when I was playing boccia that day, I was a wee bit on fire. Tssss, ouch :).

And as you can see in the picture, I am also celebrating All Hallows eve, my favourite time of the year :).

I have no idea what the sun is doing in my room though :).

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aqua4 profile image
aqua4

Well done Matt. K

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Matt2584 in reply to aqua4

Thank you aqua

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MXman

Well done matey.

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Matt2584 in reply to MXman

Thanx MX :).

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randomphantoms

Hi Matt and well done.

Are you sure it's the sun and not just the glow of achievement?

Lovenhugs

Xoxo

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Matt2584 in reply to randomphantoms

Thank you and a glow of achievement sounds better :).

That glow in the corner is the light from the light bulbs in my room but on the picture it does look similar to the sun.

My light isn't that bright though, I assure you :).

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steve55

thats brilliant .....a ferry....where do you live mate

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Matt2584 in reply to steve55

Thanks Steve :).

I live on the south coast in a town called Gosport right next to the city of Portsmouth.

I live in Gosport and the Headway offices are in Portsmouth so I have to cross Portsmouthharbor via Gosport ferry :).

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steve55 in reply to Matt2584

im just up the 27 in bognor regis.

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Matt2584 in reply to steve55

Not too far away from me then :).

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cat3

Nice one Matt. Two buses & the ferry..................I'd be exhausted before I even got there !

Then you win 'Man of the Match' ; well done. xx

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Writer52

You're the man of the match dear matt congratulations to you xxx

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Matt2584 in reply to Writer52

Thank you Writer :).

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Nutkin33

Well done!

Both to your 'Man of the Match', and traveling all that distance by yourself, to Headway! Sounds like you're having lots of fun. Keep it up.

Our Headway met at The Quay yesterday, and went to Poole Museum. I must say, I found it extremely interesting. Pottery from around 2000BC! Amazing!

And the work of people hundreds of years ago, and the colors they used, was quite incredible!

😊😉

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Matt2584 in reply to Nutkin33

Thanks Nutkin :).

I have been traveling on my own on a Thursday for quite a while now and I enjoy it.

I like the freedom and knowing I am not having to drag my mum or dad out of work to take me along.

And I also like the fact that when I am on my own I handle things my own way such as asking a stranger for help maybe? Or walking where and what direction and what speed and so on.

I do feel sometimes when people take a look at me they don't think I am capable of doing this and that... They would be surprised :).

Your Headway went out! On a day trip was it? Does your Headway go out often? Ours has been to Marwell zoo a couple of times and we have been on a barge before that went along chichester canal.

The things people made hundreds to thousands of years ago is pretty good stuff. And when you see what they did from virtually nothing to what humanity does now, it kind of puts us to shame :).

Glad you enjoyed your day.

Take care,

MJ

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Nutkin33 in reply to Matt2584

Thanks Matt.

At Headway we try and go somewhere once a month! Usually works well!

I think you are doing very well with your perseverance.

Excellent.

😉😘

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Matt2584 in reply to Nutkin33

Your Headway tries to go out once a month! Your Headway sounds quite active then :).

I used to attend another disabled group called the Disability Activity Group (DAG for short) and they were a small time group that would go out at least once a month, sometimes twice or thrice.

They might go out to a local museum or walk through the high street or even have a picnic and when we were indoors we would either sit around chatting or play games.

Our Headway is lucky to get out once a year!

I was told when I joined Headway that they went on holidays and a member has told me that he went to Cornwall with Headway once, lucky devil.

I haven't been on holiday with Headway but have been out on days trips.

I think the main reason we don't go out much on day trips and holidays is because of the funds. It's all about money today.

And with an exceptionally cruel government, money can be hard to get hold of.

Thanks for noting my perseverance though :).

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Nutkin33 in reply to Matt2584

I think it's also about who's running the Group

At our Headway, it's 3 of us, and we try and look for options that will be enjoyed by all!

We have done 10 pin bowling, bingo, crazy golf, and we once went to Butchers Coppice, where we did Archery, Rifle Shooting and Rock Climbing.

We try and keep costs low, but we do charge everyone. Headway can't pay!

Thanks and keep going!

😉😘

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Matt2584 in reply to Nutkin33

Oh yes, it definitely depends a lot on who is running the group too.

When I first joined Headway, there was about eight members of staff. Some were payed and some were trusted volunteers.

Over the years, charities experienced funding cuts. This is also one of the reasons why my other disabled group the DAG closed down because of lack of funding.

Since I have been at Headway we have had about five different people managing Headway.

The last manager we had was terrible. Some people had lost interest in going because of her and also they found other things to do.

Anyway, this manager has gone now and another lady has taken over and she is much, much better and I believe Headway is on the rise once again.

But even with her management, their isn't a great number of staff going around.

There is only 3 payed members of staff and they work part time as well and there are a lot more volunteers now but they can only come by when they are available.

I expect if our Headway had more payed members of staff and more trusted volunteers then we probably would be able to get out and do more activities.

What you mentioned about bowling, bingo, crazy golf is what the DAG used to do.

It is a shame they had to close. As I say, they were a small time group but it was good.

Through that group though, I am a member of another disabled group called Dis-play.

The group was actually invented over 30 years ago from a lady/ex nurse and it was set up in her front room.

Over the years, the group got way bigger and the group rents a hall they can use now.

The group is huge and because of the big group, it is hard to go out and do stuff so most of the games and things is done indoors.

Everyone seems to enjoy it though and it is through that group that has helped out with my art too :).

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Nutkin33 in reply to Matt2584

That's great that they have helped you with your art, cos you're really good at it!

😉😘

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Matt2584 in reply to Nutkin33

Thanks for that :).

I just bought my art along to this group one day in 2011, I think, and I happened to catch the eye of the ladies who run the group because they are also fans of art.

One of the ladies has an artistic friend who I think has an art class somewhere. Anyway, this other artistic lady sometimes meets up with me at Dis-play and she passes on her knowledge of art and it's really helping me out, as you have noticed :).

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steve55 in reply to Matt2584

i only go into town at weekend with my wife. shes learnt how to distract me from possible outbursts.

because my behaviour is un predictable and my thought process is my tongue i prefer to stay at home during the week.

there is a day centre for the over 50s less than a 10 min bus ride and a very short walk , but since my stroke i wont speak to strangers and stay away from them unless my wife is with me. im totally opposite to the way i was.

but on a positive note there are things about me and my new journey i feel excited about.

typing for one thing,because i need to think what im writing and the spelling, i dont swear

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Matt2584 in reply to steve55

I spent about six years at home, it was very boring but because of my BI I didn't really know where else to turn.

Thank god for parents though :). I had an appointment at my hospital in 2007. My mum picked up a leaflet for a place called Headway, you might know of them :).

I later got more details and ended up joining them that year and have not tuned back.

When I went back to the hospital after I had joined Headway, docs were asking me what I as doing with myself. I said I now go to Headway and they said "Oh really. What's that?"

!!!

The leaflet came from their hospital and no one knew what Headway was!

Anyway, where I was at home for years, it was then that I lost a lot of confidence and motivation and I was very anti social as well.

Take care,

MJ

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steve55 in reply to Matt2584

found it through the net. monthly group 2nd monday of the month.

but the members meet twice a month at someones house for tea and biscuits.

one of our number turned 60 last week so we all piled around there for a party.....a good night was had by all,

we all live fairly close to each other

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Alice5

Well done, what an achievement! ☺😊

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Matt2584 in reply to Alice5

Thanks Alice :).

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headchild

So pleased for you Matt - I can't even get our local Headway to answer my emails let alone help with anything else.

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Matt2584 in reply to headchild

Thanks child :).

That is not very good or supportive that your Headway cannot answer your emails.

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headwayukPartnerHeadway in reply to headchild

Hi headchild,

Sorry to hear this - do you want to give our helpline a call (0808 800 2244 or helpline@headway.org.uk) and we can discuss it?

Best wishes,

Headway

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