death from ischemic heart desease 10 months after a TBI , is there a link between them ,

[stacc]

[headwayuk Partner Headway]

Hi stacc,

Unfortunately we have no information on a traumatic brain injury causing death from ischaemic heart disease.

The other way round, a heart attack can often cause a (hypoxic) brain injury in people who survive, as the brain can be starved of oxygen.

From the limited information in your post it's hard to give details, but if somebody you know has sadly passed away in these circumstance, it may be wise to speak to the treating doctors. There are many possible causes of heart disease, and perhaps they can help you to get to the bottom of why this occurred?

Best wishes,

Headway.

[cat3]

Hi again Stacey. I'm so sorry that you're still struggling with questions about the death of your dad. The loss of a parent is hard to bear, even when the reasons are clear, but the events surrounding your fathers accident were, I agree, pretty inconsistent with his injuries and you are still searching for answers.

Are you managing to talk with your mum and sisters more easily yet ? .......I know you said previously that it was still too difficult.

Also, can I ask whether your dad had any previous history of heart disease ? Love Cat xx

[stacc in reply to cat3]

was trying hard not to think bout what has happened . an carry on like his still here , but its when im with mum an me sisters i dont know what to say to any of then . its 6 months now an the pain we all have is as raw today as it was the day he died .

an cat no he never had any heart problems . But i also now know that he had or died of septic shock . . cos ive seen it writen on paper work from dads doctor..

i know i do seem like a crazy person tryin to look for someone to blame for my dads death. but i know when he was move to our local hospital 2 days aftwer waking from the coma they had no information about my dad or what had happened or that he was only there waiting for a bed a seven oaks rehalbilltaion center, he was ment to be constantly watched but my dad was able to leave the hospital an begin walking home in wrong direction / we was informord of this an begun looking for him an my sister pick him up she drove back to hospital were my dad was telling then that he was fine an wanted to go hone an they agreed an said well theres not really much we can do bring him back monday morning .we was so scared he had only been out coma for 2 days, he wouldnt go back on the monday an we got a letter sayin that cos he left hospital he has to go to his GP . he got tablets off of him witch i dont think he took all the time / an he started having what at the time we thought were fits but i think there was damage caused by the inpact to arterys at the back of his neck an some times would be come slightly bloocked starving brain an heart of oxygen an causing my dad to calaps an wen he died i think the same happened not enuff oxygen getting to the muscells in an around the heart , but only for a few mins more but long enuff for the wall muscekks to frezze {stop pumping blood to his heart }

[cat3]

Sorry for the delay, Stacey. I suspect you were very close to your dad (not the case for everyone) and now you are ,understandably, very protective about the memory of him. And so I've been struggling for a way to talk to you which doesn't upset you, because that would really upset me too.............but here goes..............

I fully appreciate that the head injuries your dad sustained are not consistent with the way his fall was described and, the way I see it, there are only two explanations for that. Either he'd been assaulted and his friends told a very different story, or they'd all had a bit too much to drink and honestly couldn't properly remember.

I know you've tried hard to give as much detail as you can, and it is truly heart-breaking that you and your family have endured so much in the past six months, but I'm not sure you should be torturing yourself with these endless questions..........and they are endless, because there just aren't any answers.

Whatever happened that day, the brain injury which resulted caused your dad to behave in ways which were completely out of character and which were unhelpful for his recovery. And I think this must have been terrifying for you all...........seeing him so out of control, yet being powerless to 'reach' him. But how could you when even the health professionals couldn't contain him..........

From beginning to end, this tragic story has been a trail of misfortune and, though you just want an explanation which will give you some peace, I'm afraid there isn't one. Your dad was unlucky, very, very unlucky but now it might be time for the grieving to take over. Finding the exact reason for his death is not your responsibility.......it is far too complicated, and I don't believe HE would have wanted you to be so troubled. Let him rest now........it might be time to let go ? Please tell me what you think.

Please Stacey, keep trying to talk to your mum and your sisters. I know it's hard when you've all been trying to keep it together but talking can really put things into perspective, and an out-pouring of emotion can be so beneficial for your emotional well-being.

But please keep talking on here and let me know if I've said anything which was misguided, or just plain stupid ! I really want to keep up with how you're feeling. Oh and I certainly don't see you as a 'crazy person' nor will anyone else !

I'm always here. Love Cat xx