There are lots of questions and comments on this site about eating in restaurants, but I'd like to ask if anyone else has decided to stop eating out.
I'm a medically-diagnosed coeliac. For the first few years I was fine eating gluten-free food in restaurants and at other peoples' houses. As time has gone by my body has got more and more sensitive, and now it doesn't take much to give me a reaction, and my reactions are stronger and more unpleasant. The Doctor says its like my body has post-traumatic shock with gluten- after years of being so damaged, it now totally over-reacts to minute amounts. As time has gone by, I have ended up being ill after AT LEAST 50% of meals out, no matter how careful friends are in preparation, or the grilling I gave to restaurant staff. I suspect its to do with the pans and kitchen equipment.
One day I decided I couldn't bear to waste any more days ill in bed as a result of eating out (which is supposed to be a pleasure!), so for the last 6 months I haven't eaten out at all. I either go out and have a drink but don't eat, or invite people to my place and I cook (but hard work and expensive to do it all the time). I feel much much better physically, like new, but socially I still find it mortifying.
I bought my own lightweight camping pans and the last two holidays have been self-catering, all with my own kitchen equipment. Very hard work indeed, BUT I was healthy and energetic all through the holidays and I did stuff that I never would have believed a couple of years ago (extreme sports)- I was the most energetic person there, up at dawn every day.
The last glutening was at a friends house- everyone was eating sandwiches, and obviously I didn't have one but I did accept a glass of Coke. At the time I wondered how clean the glass was and whether my friend had touched the part I was going to drink from with her sandwichy fingers, but I drank it anyway. An hour later the tips of my fingers started tingling (the first tell-tale sign) and I ended up spending the rest of the weekend in bed and in the bathroom - that was the only thing I consumed outside of my home that day
Is anyone else in the same boat?
Does anyone have trouble even with drinks, due to grimy glasses etc?
How do you deal with it?
This is the hardest thing I've ever done, but I don't want to waste another moment feeling ill, I've got too many great things to do!!! It's like a paradox- if I eat and drink things to get closer to people I end up further away, as I get ill and miss out on the next few days. If I isolate myself socially by refusing things from people, at least I'm well, lively and I can go out and do the things I want to do.