Heartbroken 17eggs collected only 3 fertilised

[Eat-sleep-ivf-repeat]

So I’m absolutely gutted and can’t stop crying.

cycle 1 we had 14 eggs collected and 12 fertilised.

Cycle 2 was 14 collected 10 fertilised.

So this time we took 6 months out (advised by clinic). I became mentally stronger, lost 2 stone to become healthier. Fixed up my diet. Researched (it starts with the egg) & Added in fertility supplements to suit along with melatonin theoughout stimulants…

& we got 17 eggs collected- OVERJOYED! Sperm score was over 80% and all looked positive…

but this was short lived.

This morning we had a call to say only 3 embryos had fertilised normally

3!!!!

I’m so so disappointed and still so sore from collection too.

move cried all day. When we had 12 eggs to play with I ended up with 2 (double fresh transfer) and when I had 10 fertilised I ended up with 1 day 5 embryo amd 2 day 6’s- what chance do I have realistically with only 3 fertilised eggs.

To make this all worse we are on a multi cycle Package and this was our very last retrieval. We used all our inheritance money on this and we don’t have the level of income to repay a GAIA plan.

I’m so upset I know it only ‘takes one’ but I feel all hope is lost. 😭😭😭

Any positive stories you ladies have of success with such low fertilisation rates with embryos that are the ethically tested…please share 🙏

Or should I come to terms with being out of the game ? 😢😭😭😢

[SKC111]

Firstly I want to send you a huge virtual hug! The ivf process is emotionally draining, and all of us women are warriors! This isn’t the end of the road for you at all yet! Have faith! Do you mind me asking how old you are? It’s difficult when you invest so much in making those changes and you haven’t seen the results. The rollercoaster is full of highs and lows, 17 is an amazing number, you would have liked more than 3 but one of those may just be your magic star, it’s not over yet the rollercoaster may come back up! I’ve been waiting 4 months to start ivf, age 40, I had one mess up with meds my fault, and twice the clinic cancelled. This has been hard enough. Sending you all the positivity and love you deserve x x x x please keep us updated x x x

[Eat-sleep-ivf-repeat in reply to SKC111]

Thanks so much for your reply 🤍

Honestly you’re right, it’s such a rollercoaster and I’m so kicking myself for waiting to optimise my body. The consultant was adamant waiting up to 18m wouldn’t make a slight difference, but the egg quality results are drastically lower than when I started at 29. I’m now 33. I guess no one was to know and these things just happen.

I hope your journey has more ups than downs and have everything crossed for you xxx

[SKC111 in reply to Eat-sleep-ivf-repeat]

You may feel like it’s the end of the road because of the journey you been on but you have so many more years of opportunity, you are still young at 33! I’m 40, starting this journey later in life I feel like I’m at the end of the road but 40 year olds have success so I’m trying & hoping for my dreams are to be made. You have 8 years on me. So many people say it happens when we stop thinking about it. We can try to optimise everything but we can’t control the outcome so don’t beat yourself up about it! Do you live in the UK, was your last package via Access Fertility? They offer refund packages at your age, you could be eligible for 100% refund if you don’t get a baby but I’m not sure if the applies if you have done ivf before but it’s worth exploring & they offer 0% monthly finance options . It’s time for you now, just follow you heart ❤️ xxxxxx

[Christianbaby]

I’m so sorry you're going through this. It’s understandable to feel devastated after all the effort and hope you’ve invested. While it might feel hopeless now, many have had success stories with fewer or the same number of embryos. Stay strong, and keep the faith. You're not out of the game yet. Sending positive energy and hope. xx

[MammaMia86]

I hope today you are feeling a bit better, it is soo difficult at the times so just in case I am sending you a big big hug.

On my 3rd cycle I've got 18 eggs out of those we only got 5 to Blasto and after doing the genetic test we had 3 left. On the first transfer of this cycle I've got pregnant and I am now 9 weeks.

The only suggestion that I can give you is that maybe you need to suggest to your doctors further tests before transfer. I ended up with the inmunologist and she was able to detect some issue with an autoinmune problem.

I don't know if this is the actual reason, why I've got pregnant but before that I had 6 transfers (1 previous pregnancy but the amniotic fluid broke, so lost it at 17 weeks).

Good Luck in your journey

[Minmin_007 in reply to MammaMia86]

Hi, I'm interested in hearing about the autoimmune problem you had if you don't mind sharing? I have been struggling to conceive naturally for 2.5 years and we're starting IVF in couple of months but my husband has autoimmune disease. Any advise would be appreciated. Thank you

[MammaMia86 in reply to Minmin_007]

In our case my husband has low mobility and quantity.The first time i've got pregnant in the umbilical cord there was only 1 artery, and around week 17 the water broke. They don't know what happen but the guess it could have been something with the placenta.

As i had multiple transfers after without success they send me more blood test with the haematologist. At the begining they didn't see anything wrong but I change clinics and my new doctor told me to get an appointment with an inmunologist specialised in fertility. I went with all my test and history and it was then when she prescribe me aspirine, heparine, and another medice for the blood.

[Nakijo]

Congrats how old were you on the third cycle? And did you take any supplements and if so, for how long?

[Eat-sleep-ivf-repeat]

UPDATE-

We made it to transfer day.

One embryo out of the 3 made it to blastocyst and was graded A.

It’s now tucked up inside me so hopefully it’s sticky!

Come on little ‘A’ we so need you to work.

Anyone have any good advice for the 2ww, do’s/ dont’s / ways to keep busy ??

🤞🥚❤️