11dp3dt BFN 😞

[Nane22]

Hi everyone so today Is meant to be my otd. I did a FRER test this morning and it’s a BFN. So pretty sure I’m out on this round.

the meds are holding off AF but I feel like AF wants to come with mild cramps. I feel pretty numb. I haven’t cried or gotten upset atm I just feel massively fed up like nothing ever works and what am I doing this for. This is the 4th transfer now: we have 2 Frosties left. Anyways I still have to go for my blood test and then have the dreaded phone call. Thank you for all your support on here xx

[Keepingfaith85]

I can hear just how hurt you are reading this . Numbness is our way of protecting ourselves and it’s so horrible when you have to wait for blood test and af etc seems so cruel. I’m still holding on to a bit of hope for you this time around though and it’s good that you have two more frosties waiting for when you build up your strength to go again. Take care of yourself for now and give yourself a rest and kindness. Sending you a huge hug xxx

[Nane22 in reply to Keepingfaith85]

Thank you xx just waiting for the call then I can close this chapter and move onto next one. But it sucks so much as one of the other girls in our work group just had a baby so I’ve got congratulations messages going off in a WhatsApp group. I am happy for her but today is just a raw day to deal with that kinda news. No one knows I did a transfer so I just want to disappear today xx

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Nane22]

maybe set it to mute, you definitely don’t need to deal with that today. Hope they don’t keep you waiting too long till your call xx

[Nane22 in reply to Keepingfaith85]

Today has been a very challenging day. Finally got a call at 630pm and yes it is definitely a BFN 😔 so next week they will book us to speak with the doctor for a follow up. xx

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Nane22]

sorry to hear that, that was a very long time to wait. I hope you are doing okay and can have a restful weekend xx

[Nane22 in reply to Keepingfaith85]

thank you yesterday was a long day for sure. I feel like if I make a plan and just keep moving maybe I won’t feel the pain so much. So I’m trying to divert my energy into the next steps and what may help etc and try to just keep going. Xx hope you’re having a good weekend too

[AuroraXen]

I'm sorry darling. It's the worst, I know how it feels to just get negative after negative result. If it definitely IS a BFN, please know everyone is with you and sends you a big hug. Praying for your luck to change. It really can, you know 🙏💕 2 Frosties is still a good chance, when you're ready. Xx

[Nane22 in reply to AuroraXen]

thank you xx just waiting for my call of doom. I’m kinda distracting myself atm but I know at some point probably when AF arrives I’ll have a good cry. I guess it might be needed to reset and keep going. Praying one day I can post a baby arrival message. Right now feels I’m congratulating others amidst my own heartbreak that no one knows.

Thank you hopefully one of these two Frosties will be the one xx

[IAAM21]

My BFN is always around the time when someone gets pregnant including my sister. It's feels so cruel because you want to be happy for others. I don't have any words that take away the pain but know there are many of us that understand those incredibly painful feelings. I've had to consider donor and never thought it'd come to come to that. Take each day to feel whatever you need to feel, try not to rush the process. When you feel ready making a plan with options can add an element of control. I'm so so sorry and hope that journey is not over, just a detour to creating a family. Take good care of yourself xx

[Nane22 in reply to IAAM21]

thank you so much. It’s so tough just dealing with the immediate stuff let alone having pregnancy announcements and births thrown into the mix. I’m sorry that you’re also going through this too. Honestly I admire everyone’s strength on here. Trying to have s family for some of us is one the hardest journeys in life. Thank you for you kind words and support and I also wish you all the best in your journey lovely xx

[PinkPanther1234]

I am so sorry that you are going through this 😔 I know the feeling well and hope you are looking after yourself. I finally had success on my 5th transfer. I hope that will be the case for you too. Good luck for when you are ready to move forward x

[Nane22 in reply to PinkPanther1234]

aww congratulations lovely! I’m so happy you finally got your beautiful family 🥰 Gives me hope 🤞 hoping 5 is my lucky number too. I hope you don’t mind me asking but was there anything you did different on the last transfer that helped you? I’m going to be speaking to the doctor about next steps and I’m just trying to make sure I’m not missing anything. Currently they did steroids lubion injections inhixa injections and baby aspirin. This combo worked on the 3rd transfer where I also had twins but sadly had a MMC.

Xxx

[PinkPanther1234 in reply to Nane22]

Thank you lovely.

I'm so sorry to hear about your MMC, that must be so tough. Sending you hugs.

Of course I don't mind. I was on the same things as you have listed above, but was also on these additionally:

Intralipids

Hydroxychloroquine

Utrogestan x 3 daily

I had raised NK cells and cytokines, so guessing these did bring it down. For my 5th transfer we also used the results from my ERA test, I needed to have transfer 24 hours earlier. I think the combination of the immune plan, the timed transfer and loads of progesterone (mine was sropping too low) was what helped them stick. We also did a double embryo transfer and I had twins. It was FET on a modified natural cycle.

I had honestly nearly got to the point where I thought it would never happen and then they both stuck. If you have any other questions please let me know. Hope all goes well in your follow up. I found I had to really push my clinic at times x

[LittleBlueOwl]

I hope you're doing okay ❤️ you've done so well to get this far! Keep going! xxx

[Nane22 in reply to LittleBlueOwl]

thank you 💕xx I’m going to try and book my follow up with the doctor and see. Feeling bit empty today still waiting for AF

[HollyT7]

one step closer my lovely ❤️ xxx

[Nane22 in reply to HollyT7]

thank you 💕 xx everyone here is so amazing. xx